atlhart

Communication and transparency. Everyone should know so that everyone can make decisions based on their own risk tolerance.

Personally, in an open group, barriered sex is the default except for two primaries. In a closed group, I think it just depends on everyone risk tolerance and trust.

Personally I’d be fine going barrier free if I was in a closed group I trusted. Like all things, the bigger the group, the more likely somone isn’t playing by the rules.

So I think it depends a lot on the circumstances.

There are no cake days, this isn’t Reddit. Don’t try to make it Reddit. Let it be it’s own thing.

This is some very ironic, animal farm energy here. The government has forgotten who gave them their power.

I think it’s generally best to just empathize and validate their feelings. My go to is “that sounds really frustrating” or just repeat back their feelings. I’d in their vent they say they are sad, repeat back “that seems like it would be sad”

Depending on you’re relationship with them, I think you can first validate, but then ask “what are you going to do” or “how are you going to handle it”

You can also ask “are you just wanting to vent or do you also want advice”

But unsolicited advice is rarely appreciated. Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one and everyone things everyone else’s stinks.