There are two answers for me. Sometimes I stop and think my way out of it and am ok after a couple hours, I can let it go.

Sometimes I just get angrier and angrier as I think about it, and in that situation I must talk to the other party. That usually takes a day or two because it takes me that long to realize I’m not gonna calm down, am still mad. But every time this has happened, the other party has apologized because they, in the same intervening time, have realized they were being asshole-ish.

Nobody I know takes that long to tell me, if I am being asshole-ish. It can take me an hour or so to calm down and apologize.

All of this assumes good intentions on all sides. My ex, you couldn’t back down or apologize with him, he saw it as weakness and would mock, was terrible at fighting.

Constantokra? Could you have a word with my okra plants? They have not flowered yet, are flourishing in the heat but no okra. I planted fewer because in years past we couldn’t keep up with them, but this year they hesitate? We want constant okra.

The toast is wrong for Florida though, we’d have Cuban bread.

The bacon though - we went to La Teresita here for breakfast, my kids ordered bacon and they brought them a whole bowl full of bacon to share.

I think populations will crash, either gently through fewer kids, or violently through war and disease. That will likely throw us backwards technologically, maybe not.

Or, who knows, maybe the population will stabilize and we get everything going in the right direction, then an asteroid hits.

I am so confused. Did he think he had to marry a man because it’s pride month? I can’t ever wrap my mind around people who think letting others love who they want to somehow reduces their own freedom to love who they want to.

Congratulations, I guess. May your children be many, and gay.

I made a Tang-a-Rita for a redneck themed party a friend was having and it really was better than it should be.

Just so many calories and simple carbs, not enough vitamins. Two of the household are bulking though, teenager and 20 year old trying to get bigger.

So I guess a better way to think about it is calorie dense, not unhealthy if your body needs that much energy.

I do call my small basket of individual stocks gambling (it is a couple hundred bucks, loses value overall, just like gambling) and the 401k I call “investing”.

I do think investing in general is speculative though, so yeah I consider it gambling. Not bonds, but stocks yes.

Most of my Kindle books are checked out from our library system, and if they are missing one book in a series or don’t have something available I can request and results have been pretty good.

There is a LOT of content for the Kindle at the library and I’m in Florida, can’t imagine we lead in this.

Amazon keeps pushing the Kindle unlimited but I can’t see the value yet. You like it?

Just made some yesterday at the request of my kids. Boil the pasta and grate a bunch of cheese, mix of whatever you have, hopefully some is sharp. Pour the pasta out into a colander (actually mine was half cauliflower, also at request of the kids). Put a whole stick of butter (had 1lb dry pasta plus a lot of cauliflower) in the pot and back on medium heat. Into melted butter put flour to make a light roux. Once that is ready, add milk slowly, whisking continuously until you have a sauce like for biscuits and gravy. Then add the cheese, let it all melt, keep stirring but with wooden spoon; stir in some mustard and any other seasonings you want, then the pasta.

Into buttered dish, topping (I used bread crumbs, shredded cheese works, crushed potato chips also work, or any combination of these) bake at 400f or so until the top is golden.

So good, not healthy even with cauliflower.

I think I may be the only person on the face of the earth with no preference on this. My commute is immaterial, the office about 2k away, working from home is kind of a drag but I don’t have to get dressed and can keep the household going (which is part of why it’s a drag) online meetings suck even more than in person meetings, otherwise fine to work remotely. So when we were working from home, I was fine with it, then hybrid I thought would be the worst of all, no, it was fine. Now they say come in at least 3 days, I am going to put away the home workstation and just work at the office, reclaim the space at home, that’s fine too. It’s pretty much the same job either way.

My very omnivorous kids love tofu, especially with pork - kimchi jigae, ma po tofu, in ramen with pork belly. The youngest loves the soft tofu in miso soup too. We always just treated it like food.

@RogueBanana@lemmy.zip it’s nothing like paneer though - whole foods makes creamed spinach with coconut milk and tofu instead of cream and paneer and the tofu is vile as a dub for paneer. In about the way you would expect, if you’ve had soy milk - it’s basically soy milk paneer. Very different texture.

And if the therapy aligns with their physical gender? No treatment for a girl who goes through puberty too young? Nothing for a girl of 17 who is worried because she hadn’t started “developing” or gotten her period? Nothing for a boy who isn’t going through male puberty, or starts it at 5? Intersex kids who are mis-assigned at birth and panic as adolescents?

Yes the therapies are not without risk, but doing nothing is also not without risk. The only reason doctors will prescribe puberty blockers is if the kids are suffering, otherwise the “care” that is getting outlawed is counseling. I have a trans kid and the doctor prescribed counseling but they can’t get it because the clinics aren’t allowed to “treat” the transgendered now.

It’s more like if you get caught making money illegally and haven’t paid taxes on it, you are also in trouble for tax fraud on top of your other trouble.

Killing all the animals would kill us, so we die either way; I don’t think killing all the humans would have a negative effect on animal life.

So I am thinking the animals probably win. Certainly if they can strategize. But either way we lose.

These people drive me crazy. I never had an abortion because I think it’s creepy as fuck but I don’t think my experience should define everyone else’s, these men are evil. If a lady has to have an abortion, she has to. Nobody wants to, and they want to heap shame on top of that, but literally will NEVER have to make that choice because they are men. Fuck off.

Twelve is such a great number. So divisible.

The incredible strength of the glue on those bags guarantees they rip and always make a mess. Flour here is mostly sold in 5lb bags that perfectly fill a gallon jar, at least. I don’t mind the paper at all but do you have to glue it down in this arrangement that guarantees ripping, with glue that could hold a bridge together?

Have you seen a neurologist or headache specialist or only a GP? If there is a cause maybe it can be treated and you can find relief. I do get migraines, but not every day, not even every week. My other guess is allergies, but in any event, keep a good record of what you are doing and feeling, and bring the information to a doctor! I don’t think it’s wrong at all to post and ask though, you get more ideas and that will help.

Running doesn’t help me as much as a vigorous yoga class, the “flow” kind that is more athletic and movement based, then moves to static poses at the end. Or dancing, that works too. The cycling sounds like enough, honestly, anything that is regular and kind of exhausting, will relax your mind.

This happened to me in the pandemic too. Working from home is kind of a drag, and building a division between work and home, logging off and sitting on the porch with a drink was such a lovely way to do that. But it quickly felt like too much drinking, alcohol is literally a downer, a central nervous system depressant. So I started going for a Pokemon go walk instead, and keep the drinking to weekends, except some weeks a half glass of wine with one supper, if it makes it better tasting. Never a full serving though.

We do joke at work about logging off and drinking when it’s stressful but most of us are not really daily drinkers and I have literally never touched alcohol at a work party or happy hour at any job and nobody cares, nobody makes a big deal about it.