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  • You are right, it could be easier to try and get some kind of a basic connection again, but the problem will still be there… And you will have to figure it out.

    But if you use that connection to remember what you like about eachother, it will make that hard conversation easier, unless your boyfriend gets angry and feels trapped and cornered. But I don’t see how you can solve anything without talking about what’s going on, and sooner rather than later. :)

    But it’s hard to give advice about this. People are so different and when I read your words, I have imaginary people in my head since I don’t know you guys. :) But I wish you luck anyway!


  • He is tired of you but doesn’t have the courage to leave the relationship. Its pretty typical.

    If you changed your appearence in the last 3 years and maybe put on extra weight, that could absolutely be a factor too.

    He is listening to music to avoid the talk. Because he knows that discussion may tear the relationship apart, and he doesn’t want to be alone (just guessing). Or he wants to be alone but is too “nice” to tell you that he wants out. Also the third behavior, to act as if everything is fine, is about avoiding the big talk.

    Obviously everything is not fine and you need to have that serious talk, and if you don’t get honest answers, you should break up with him.

    He could still love you, but could be that he is not attracted to you anymore, and he feels ashamed about that too. I don’t know. Just talk.

    If he is not going to be honest, you can’t fix the problem. You are doing more then your part in trying to understand and fix it. He must too.