like, if I’m nice (as I would prefer to be), a man might get the wrong impression, but I’m also afraid to be rude or do anything to upset them so I have to be the right kind of nice or polite - it’s a real double-bind, and something I don’t experience with women
This is one of the advantages of being old and grey haired. If you smile at a man, he just thinks you’re a daft old granny.