like, if I’m nice (as I would prefer to be), a man might get the wrong impression, but I’m also afraid to be rude or do anything to upset them so I have to be the right kind of nice or polite - it’s a real double-bind, and something I don’t experience with women
Ironically, I heard somebody say once that straight men write the best gay romance because nobody is as desperate for validation from men as a straight guy is, and it makes perfect sense. Gay guys have emotionally fulfilling relationships with other men all the time.
That makes a lot of sense! Holy shit the straights are not okay, and if you tell them or offer them culture they get mad.