like, if I’m nice (as I would prefer to be), a man might get the wrong impression, but I’m also afraid to be rude or do anything to upset them so I have to be the right kind of nice or polite - it’s a real double-bind, and something I don’t experience with women
anyone who is male who opens up to anyone else, male or female or trans, gets socially rejected. anytime i have opened up about any experience in my life i am socially rejected. women don’t understand this because it is normal for them to express emotions constantly and often socially celebrated and rewarded. male expression is viewed as hostile, bizarre, and a symptom of mental illness.
the only place men can open up is in professional places, like your therapist or therapy group.
it’s pretty easy. just think of a woman crying on a bench after a breakup. people will be concerned. a man doing this, will be viewed with hostility and suspicion.
I say it with all my heart: you need better friends, man. What you’re describing is common but not normal
thanks for your comment, but unfortunately this community has a rule that only women are permitted to comment or post, so please don’t comment further
hope you understand 💚
Yeah the first thing I think when i see a dude crying on a be*ch is suspicion. Probably a suicide bomber, just waiting for someone to get close!