like, if I’m nice (as I would prefer to be), a man might get the wrong impression, but I’m also afraid to be rude or do anything to upset them so I have to be the right kind of nice or polite - it’s a real double-bind, and something I don’t experience with women
yes, it’s a real double bind, and it’s even worse because I’m afraid of what men will do; one time a man was frustrated with me and they literally physically grabbed me and started to push me- I know they feel they have a right to touch me, so I want to be polite and nice to avoid their anger or frustration, there’s a real sense of danger and wanting to placate