like, if I’m nice (as I would prefer to be), a man might get the wrong impression, but I’m also afraid to be rude or do anything to upset them so I have to be the right kind of nice or polite - it’s a real double-bind, and something I don’t experience with women

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    5 days ago

    All the time. Normally I’m nice and I’ll smile if we’re having a pleasant interaction. I have a major RBF and when I’m out in public I automatically counter it with a “happier” look to avoid the “you should smile once in awhile” comments 🤢. Fortunately (unfortunately?) I am not most men’s type(overweight) so they generally leave me alone but the grandpas omg. I’m definitely the type for grandpas, they latch on the second I smile at them and do not stfu. I volunteer at a senior center so I am all smiles 100% of the time. One of the grandpas told me how much he loves chubby girls and told me about this TV show where people pick someone to date based on their naked bodies and gushed over the chubby girls basically describing me… gahhhh!! I wish I was like the lady in the screenshot, it would be easier if I wasn’t worried about upsetting them lol.