I have a half-sibling who took one of those tests not knowing his parents went to a sperm bank due to fertility issues, so he assumed his mom had an affair (and he’s not the youngest child). The rest of us all knew I think (except the sperm donor’s actual child). Fortunately, he had another one of my half-siblings reach out to him to explain it.
Also “Turned out my father isn’t my real dad” is BS. Genetic test results are useless for determining such.
Yes, we all get anon was also communicating that his dad didn’t contribute ~half of anon’s genetic material, but using language that also communicates that real parents should be devalued if they don’t contribute their seed and seed donors should be thought of as being more than just irrelevant seed donors.
Who is your father, the one you would rely on when you need a paternal figure, the dude who shoot his sperm or the dude who raised you? Hopefully both dudes are the same person but in the case they aren’t, I think the answer is clear.
I’d be surprised if adopted kids don’t consider the people who raised them as parents as their actual parents.
You would be technically correct with the first two even though I was talking in social terms,not technical ones, but adopted kids are not step-kids. Those aren’t are legally full parents, not step-parents. Step-parents might be the boyfriend or next husband of a single mother or vice-versa, but once you are adopted, if we are getting pedantic about it, the step thing disappears.
Those tests are how we know who our formerly anonymous sperm donor is and how a bunch of us half-siblings know each other. We’ve met the sperm donor a couple times. Seems like a cool dude mostly. But he’s only one person’s real dad.
Also “Turned out my father isn’t my real dad” is BS. Genetic test results are useless for determining such.
Wait, what now? The AncestryDNA test isn’t WGS, but it analyzes 700K loci. One can infer relatedness with an insanely high degree of accuracy with that number. For reference, the standard US paternity test uses 20 loci and it’s more than 99% accurate.
Or do you mean one needn’t be a biological parent to be a real father to a child? I agree with that 100%.
At least you recognized that I clearly didn’t think that ancestryDNA tests couldn’t determine paternity. But it just determines who provided sperm (or an egg and womb), not who the real parents are.
I have a half-sibling who took one of those tests not knowing his parents went to a sperm bank due to fertility issues, so he assumed his mom had an affair (and he’s not the youngest child). The rest of us all knew I think (except the sperm donor’s actual child). Fortunately, he had another one of my half-siblings reach out to him to explain it.
Also “Turned out my father isn’t my real dad” is BS. Genetic test results are useless for determining such.
Genetic tests can be used to determine paternity though?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DNA_paternity_testing
Maybe you are referring to a specific type of test?
He’s referring to the fact that paternity doesn’t make you a dad.
You can preach this too.
Eh we all know what anon meant
Yes, we all get anon was also communicating that his dad didn’t contribute ~half of anon’s genetic material, but using language that also communicates that real parents should be devalued if they don’t contribute their seed and seed donors should be thought of as being more than just irrelevant seed donors.
I mean they’re the biological father
That’s not what anon said though.
No I meant to your irrelevant seed donor thing
Biological fathers are irrelevant seed donors if that’s all they do.
Who is your father, the one you would rely on when you need a paternal figure, the dude who shoot his sperm or the dude who raised you? Hopefully both dudes are the same person but in the case they aren’t, I think the answer is clear.
I’d be surprised if adopted kids don’t consider the people who raised them as parents as their actual parents.
I mean first one might just be a father figure, second is the biological father and the third might be a step-father. All fathers of sort
You would be technically correct with the first two even though I was talking in social terms,not technical ones, but adopted kids are not step-kids. Those aren’t are legally full parents, not step-parents. Step-parents might be the boyfriend or next husband of a single mother or vice-versa, but once you are adopted, if we are getting pedantic about it, the step thing disappears.
Oh okay, i just thought it came from not being the biological father
Those tests are how we know who our formerly anonymous sperm donor is and how a bunch of us half-siblings know each other. We’ve met the sperm donor a couple times. Seems like a cool dude mostly. But he’s only one person’s real dad.
Wait, what now? The AncestryDNA test isn’t WGS, but it analyzes 700K loci. One can infer relatedness with an insanely high degree of accuracy with that number. For reference, the standard US paternity test uses 20 loci and it’s more than 99% accurate.
Or do you mean one needn’t be a biological parent to be a real father to a child? I agree with that 100%.
Correct!
I’m so confused by this. Are you playing semantic games here? Because this is otherwise completely wrong, and contradicts the story you told before it
At least you recognized that I clearly didn’t think that ancestryDNA tests couldn’t determine paternity. But it just determines who provided sperm (or an egg and womb), not who the real parents are.
Your real dad is the father who raised you. Don’t discriminate against step-parents.