One way I’ve seen this put is don’t be nice, be kind. Nice is performative and ‘nice’ people can be two faced because they’ll be ‘nice’ to both a bully and the bully’s victim.
Being kind is more about empathy. And if you have empathy, you won’t tolerate bullies. It’s far more genuine and not just a performance for whoever you’re currently in the company of.
Yeah have a discussion after you have already been interviewing to see what’s out there, your discussion could lead to your manager or VP considering you a flight risk or unmotivated employee, putting a target on your back when they need to do layoffs. So always have a backup plan ready before you open your mouth.
I dont think that is necessary unless you work for a real prick. If that’s the case, start looking immediately. If youre afraid to confront your employer because your afraid of backlash you need to go. The communication will never be fruitful.
Edit: reminder - society deeming you a worker drone does not mean you should behave like one. Defend your humanity. Defend your right to exist. Defend your right to the pursuit of happieness.
Be nice because you want to be a nice person.
Work hard because you enjoy the work.
Take on more than you have in the past to extend your capabilities. Never take on “more than you should”.
Never do any of these things for the recognition of others. Do these things because you want to do them.
One way I’ve seen this put is don’t be nice, be kind. Nice is performative and ‘nice’ people can be two faced because they’ll be ‘nice’ to both a bully and the bully’s victim.
Being kind is more about empathy. And if you have empathy, you won’t tolerate bullies. It’s far more genuine and not just a performance for whoever you’re currently in the company of.
Corollary: Quit if you don’t get paid to perform tasks you don’t want to do.
Or just have the fucking discussion. We sit there mad we have been given something beyond our ability but never want to actualize it sort it out.
These kind of discussions should be practiced in school. Most people have no idea on how to start with it.
It also requires you to value yourself and your time. Some times therapy is the only way.
Yeah have a discussion after you have already been interviewing to see what’s out there, your discussion could lead to your manager or VP considering you a flight risk or unmotivated employee, putting a target on your back when they need to do layoffs. So always have a backup plan ready before you open your mouth.
I dont think that is necessary unless you work for a real prick. If that’s the case, start looking immediately. If youre afraid to confront your employer because your afraid of backlash you need to go. The communication will never be fruitful.
Edit: reminder - society deeming you a worker drone does not mean you should behave like one. Defend your humanity. Defend your right to exist. Defend your right to the pursuit of happieness.
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