• volvoxvsmarla@sopuli.xyz
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    2 days ago

    I haven’t had a single drink since I got pregnant.

    Kid is 4 now. I am still sober. I planned on quitting and was cutting it down when TTC, only having some drinks on New Year’s. But I had so many relapses in the previous years. I was scared that I wouldn’t be able to stay sober throughout pregnancy, let alone motherhood.

    It was the easiest thing to not have a drink during pregnancy, and it is still rather easy now. Even in dark, theoretically tempting times, it is so easy to say no. And I am incredibly proud. It is a miracle I made it out alive, let alone happily and free from fucking alcohol.

    • BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world
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      I feel like alcohol really gets away on women. I have known two women who sort of just became casual alcoholics without really noticing, like just suddenly it crept up on them that they were drinking lighter forms of alcohol in significant quantities, but it just all seemed like being social and relaxing, and it wasn’t until they each had in their mid forties a stroke and an aneurysm respectively. Neither of them were drinking to cope with difficulties or anything with a maladaptive intent, it was done in a social fashion only, and then suddenly became a huge problem.

      I think drinking for women is different than drinking for men, and I think we have worse outcomes as a result.

      I don’t really drink anymore, maybe 2-3 times a year I’ll have a single drink. I never had any sort of habit before but I liked my glass or two of wine on a weekend. But I just felt like it would be better to stop, and it was.

      Congratulations on your sobriety, it’s a hard thing to achieve!

      Edit: found the article I was thinking of: https://medium.com/gentleblog/why-alcohol-poses-a-greater-danger-to-women-a56bc21496d6