• bcgm3@lemmy.world
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    13 hours ago

    I had a girl cancel and reschedule our first date shortly before we were supposed to meet up. That date happened, and she confided in me that she’d done that on purpose to gauge my reaction and general demeanor before actually coming out to meet me. I respected that move, and I think I would have been okay with her bringing a friend instead, as long as it was just the once.

    Anyway, that was eight years ago, we’re married now.

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      6 hours ago

      Nice that it worked out but deception and playing games would be a huge red flag for me. Nothing about that instance in particular, it’s just that I’d always wonder “is this situation for real or another trick?”

      Maybe the immediate followup fixes it. You were strangers then after all. And after eight years of course you know what you’re working with haha

      Damnit now I’m just rambling to myself, carry on!

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      5 hours ago

      You’re a dumbass for playing along with such insane bullshit but I’m glad it worked out for you.

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        2 hours ago

        I don’t think “begrudging women a single test to see if someone is the type to explode over a single inconvenience” is the right hill to stick your flag on.