We had a dog that was born deaf, so we taught him with hand signals instead of voice commands. Was completely fine, except when he was doing something he knew he shouldn’t, he’d turn away from you so you couldn’t scold him. But he’d also get curious about whether you caught him doing it, so he’d sneak a look over his shoulder, and then you could scold him and he’d stop.
So do people who realize not everything requires a response.
Sometimes when someone is rude to me or argumentative with me, I look at them like, “did you really just say that?” And then I leave them there questioning their life choices or maybe finding someone else to bother.
It’s taken me a long time to learn this.
Saying “OK” or “I hear you”, doesn’t mean you agree. You can hear someone’s words and leave it at that.
I rarely reply to anyone who has replied to my internet comment. I’ve had my say. They’ve had their say. If we disagree then there’s not much to gain from further posts.
Mostly I can agree with peoples premise. Sure your life is hard, I can agree with that. But I don’t have to agree with your next logical leap of “and it’s all because of the bloody immigrants”.
Mostly I can now hear pretty toxic things and think to myself “if I just continue my life as if that was never said, does it change anything”…the answer is pretty much always that it doesnt matter that someone said some shit. It can easily be ignored.
In fact I like hearing shot people have to say now. I’d rather hear what’s happening inside instead of you pretending and filtering. Male your character clear. Say the appealing things you mean to. The words are ethereal and I can easily discard them. I appreciate knowing the real you.
Good take. Some things are not even worth engaging with and my life has been much calmer since that realization.
Going back to the shower thought, turning off your hearing aids during an argument is like a live version of putting someone on mute.
Uh, have you ever seen a heated argument in ASL? It’s intense.
To a blind person, a deaf argument would sound exactly like a slap fight from the fury of signs flying back and forth.
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