Hi, so I could use some help. I really like my girlfriend and I want to show my love and make her feel special, but I don’t know how to do it without going into “obsessive” territory. I’ve loved her for two years and every day with her is great, but I don’t know what to do since I feel more obsessed every day.
Ask her how her day is, give her time to respond, and listen to her answer.
Also, just empathize. Don’t try and ‘solve’ any of the issues, or say ‘well if it were me, I would have…’
I still make those mistakes and I’ve been married almost a decade.
I second this. If you’re busy and she comes in to talk or rant, stop what you’re doing and look at her and listen. Your face will show her that you’re listening intently.