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Cake day: July 5th, 2023

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  • Same here. One solution is - sleep sooner. Force yourself to sleep an hour sooner than you regularly do. Also, tell yourself before you sleep that you’ll wake up at the same time you usually get up. Say it out loud, not just mentally.

    Once you do these, your mind will be alert to wake up sooner and will actually try to wake you up whenever there is a disturbance. Also, the added hour of sleep will help you long term.

    There may be loads of extenuating circumstances- kids, work pressure, your spouse wanting to spend time with you. Make a deal with them. Say you’ll pick up extra work around the house or spend more time with the kids or for work. Whatever it takes. In a few months time, you won’t need the extra sleep. But your mind will be more alert.

    Hope this works for you. It did for me for the time I did it. Then I slipped and I again can’t wake up no matter what. I do wake up if someone calls me when I sleep sooner though. So that’s nice to retain.





  • I did that once as part of an escape from Google. Just downloaded everything to thunderbird and then severed the link. Then thunderbird became my source of truth for emails. Whatever I needed to delete, I did (subscriptions, ham emails, et) and then I uploaded to another vendor which was much cheaper for the starting tier. I can skip that last step.

    Just make sure to severe the link so thunderbird doesn’t do anything stupid. But you can also take a backup of your inbox in case thunderbird does do something silly.








  • One trick that always works - every time (or every other time) you go to the grocery store, get her flowers or a balloon. It doesn’t have to be fresh flowers - discount flowers work too.

    It lets her know that you thought of her and that you want your shared space to look nice.

    But, as others say - listen to her. If she hates flowers, get something else.

    And listen, be cheap. It’s fine. Don’t buy the best flowers. They die after a while and beauty fades. So don’t sweat about getting expensive roses.

    Added bonus - come valentines, you can skip flowers because they’re overpriced and she’s so used to them that she wants something else 🙂