I disagree with this sentiment that you are trying to convey. If language has to have intent assumed outside of context especially if the context is no – “no” should just be said and that should be respected fully.
It must be nice to live in a world where there are zero men who behave like mental toddlers in the bodies of, well, men who become a real threat when told simple words like “no”.
Most of us don’t live in that world, but are insanely jealous of those of you who apparently do.
While I agree with you in principle, unfortunately a lot of people feel pressured to “soften the blow” from learned experiences or trauma or whatever else might be the case, as it’s not always the case that people take “no” for an answer and handle it respectfully. It’s a defense strategy
It never “necessarily” meant anything. But even today it usually means something. And specifically if it’s being used in response to a pass, it means “NO”.
But you probably already knew that, right? You’re just arguing to be argumentative, right?
If someone is daying it in response to you hitting on them, it definitely does mean something. Even if someone might potentially be open to poly in another situation, if you’re like “hey you’re cute, wanna hang out” and they come back with “i have a partner” then thats them blowing you off for sure.
“I have a boy/girlfriend” doesn’t necessarily mean anything. Times have changed, folks.
“I have a boy/girlfriend” is supposed to stop you.
"Do you mind that I have a boy/girlfriend? " is meant to keep your interest while being transparent.
Know what is being said.
This right here. Context is king, yo!
I disagree with this sentiment that you are trying to convey. If language has to have intent assumed outside of context especially if the context is no – “no” should just be said and that should be respected fully.
It must be nice to live in a world where there are zero men who behave like mental toddlers in the bodies of, well, men who become a real threat when told simple words like “no”.
Most of us don’t live in that world, but are insanely jealous of those of you who apparently do.
I mean if you’re in a situation and they say “I have a boy/girlfriend” you could say “is that a no?” If for some reason you think it might not be.
While I agree with you in principle, unfortunately a lot of people feel pressured to “soften the blow” from learned experiences or trauma or whatever else might be the case, as it’s not always the case that people take “no” for an answer and handle it respectfully. It’s a defense strategy
Should is doing a lot of work here. Sadly no isn’t respected still.
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It never “necessarily” meant anything. But even today it usually means something. And specifically if it’s being used in response to a pass, it means “NO”.
But you probably already knew that, right? You’re just arguing to be argumentative, right?
🙄
If someone is daying it in response to you hitting on them, it definitely does mean something. Even if someone might potentially be open to poly in another situation, if you’re like “hey you’re cute, wanna hang out” and they come back with “i have a partner” then thats them blowing you off for sure.
Yes, even us polyam people can understand this.
Incorrect, even us polyamorous people understand its intended meaning.