It’s mean and childish of a person who got asked out and declined to publish who asked them out and even how, especially when they’re coining it in such a bad way. I’ve observed these situations too. Some things shouldn’t be gossiped because they can have a very negative impact on the mental situation of some people.

I hope you’re doing fine and working on overcoming that fear. If you actually have a weakness on social clues like that, I think it wouldn’t be too bad of an idea to let them know somehow. I bet most will be very understanding. Most of the time, people are very polite when declining.