The power of saying no. I’ve always felt like the little white lie was great as a social lubricant - e.g., “Oh I’d love to come to your housewarming party but I’ve already got plans that day” when you know full well that you’re available but you just don’t wanna go.
But after a while, making excuses and remembering them later gets to be stressful. Especially for me because I’m horrible at lying lol. So I’ve learned to say things like “Thanks for inviting me, but I’m gonna sit this one out.” It’s a polite but clear ‘no’ and now I don’t have to keep up a fib going forward.
To be fair, sometimes people don’t like being told no, but I’ve been surprised to see that they’ll usually accept it gracefully.
i have a friend like this I’ll invite him to something and he’ll be like “that sounds fun! But I think I’ll pass” and honestly I respect it. If he doesn’t want to do something he shouldn’t have to make up some excuse.
My family (just my dads side i guess?) is horrible at taking no for an answer. It took me most of my life to realise they needed to be firmly (and quite literally) told to fuck off in order for them to take a NO seriously. Learning that is probably the only reason i still have any kind of relationship with my dad, i don’t care to interact with the rest of them.
The power of saying no. I’ve always felt like the little white lie was great as a social lubricant - e.g., “Oh I’d love to come to your housewarming party but I’ve already got plans that day” when you know full well that you’re available but you just don’t wanna go.
But after a while, making excuses and remembering them later gets to be stressful. Especially for me because I’m horrible at lying lol. So I’ve learned to say things like “Thanks for inviting me, but I’m gonna sit this one out.” It’s a polite but clear ‘no’ and now I don’t have to keep up a fib going forward.
To be fair, sometimes people don’t like being told no, but I’ve been surprised to see that they’ll usually accept it gracefully.
i have a friend like this I’ll invite him to something and he’ll be like “that sounds fun! But I think I’ll pass” and honestly I respect it. If he doesn’t want to do something he shouldn’t have to make up some excuse.
My family (just my dads side i guess?) is horrible at taking no for an answer. It took me most of my life to realise they needed to be firmly (and quite literally) told to fuck off in order for them to take a NO seriously. Learning that is probably the only reason i still have any kind of relationship with my dad, i don’t care to interact with the rest of them.
“No” is a complete sentence.