• Owl@mander.xyz
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    18 hours ago

    women with photos with guns

    any woman posing leaning against the hood of a sports car

    We sure have different values

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      9 hours ago

      To be fair, I would too with the first. But I’m European so that as a profile/dating app pic sounds insane.

      Technically the second too, not because it’s a red flag for me, but just because I don’t particularly care and have better odds elsewhere if that’s half their personality.

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      16 hours ago

      Perhaps. I think guns are something to be handled with care, not something to enjoy as a hobby. I think sports cars are a waste of money because, realistically, you’ll be driving on city streets with speed limits in most cases.

      I have a comfortable sedan because the pan taught me that I can’t rely on ride-shares and mass transit in a once-in-a-lifetime (we hope) emergency. I barely drive it. It’s a tool. And I don’t own guns because I think they’re dangerous and I’m prone to bouts of depression (I’m bi-polar). Anyone who thinks these are cool or part of their identity is not someone I want as a life partner. Even without being judgmental about these things, they signal different priorities from my own.

      Now a someone with a full bookshelf in the background is another thing entirely. Or playing musical instruments. Or out in nature. These are things I value.

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        9 hours ago

        You know, as reasonable as it is, the last paragraph does sound totally corny. I’d be fine dating someone who’s not as much of a nerd as me, or is a nerd in a different way like movies.

        Especially the bookshelf part, since in my experience, a lot of people with piles of books don’t read them (I gave the worse ones away), and making a dating app pic in a library isn’t the first thing that comes to mind.