Maxine and I have been friends since childhood. She went from a very energetic lesbian (though bad-tempered and rude) who quotes movies and someone I used to date to a mostly kind, devout hetero Christian who wants a Christian husband and kids. Apparently she joined a Christian “friend” group as well who forced her to repent and become a Christian so she wouldn’t be a lesbian or something?? Anyway, the cons are that she’s friends with people who threatened to beat me up, bullied me, etc. but she also stood up for me?

She treated me like a pet or a 5-year-old because of my autism. She called me a retard and told me it was “none of my business” when I asked why she was angry. She called me an annoying brat who no one likes and talked behind my back but she also gave me stuff, was nice to me, and stood up for me.

Is it worth the friendship because of the nice things she did? Could she really have “just” been mad?

  • redlemace@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 months ago

    She treated me like a pet or a 5-year-old because of my autism.

    That says it all. That’s NOT a friend

    She called me a retard told me it was “none of my business” when I asked why she was angry. She called me an annoying brat who no one likes and talked behind my back

    Only adds up

    but she also gave me stuff, was nice to me, and stood up for me.

    Probably for show/not too loose someone she can kick down to make herself feelbetter. One way or the other,vsee does not see you as an equal. Often (not always, but often) people can’t keep up the facade when angry and show a true face/opinion.

    But only you can decide if all aspects in the friendship have a positive or negative balance for you.