My friend was like that. He had a lot of friends who were girls, and the way that he handled that was by putting us all in the “friend” box (he was bi, so he did the same for guys, but given that most guys are straight, that wasn’t as necessary). It was a great method until he ended up hooking up with his best friend — it was a surprise to no-one but him. He walked around looking shellshocked for a week.
This is the best strat. Forget the sex/relationship, be friends. Everyone has an easier time being themselves when making friends. Being yourself is authentic and generally attractive, that’s why your friends stick around. Then if you still think they’re cool, be flirty friends, transition quick though, so you don’t give the impression you’re not interested. Then if that works out you’re already 80% of the way there, you’re socializing and flirting and not being awkward.
If you don’t have friends, make friends first. Even if you somehow manage to find a partner when you have no friends, you’ll destroy the relationship because you’ll expect the partner to provide 100% of your socializing and interpersonal needs, which isn’t really plausible.
My friend was like that. He had a lot of friends who were girls, and the way that he handled that was by putting us all in the “friend” box (he was bi, so he did the same for guys, but given that most guys are straight, that wasn’t as necessary). It was a great method until he ended up hooking up with his best friend — it was a surprise to no-one but him. He walked around looking shellshocked for a week.
This is the best strat. Forget the sex/relationship, be friends. Everyone has an easier time being themselves when making friends. Being yourself is authentic and generally attractive, that’s why your friends stick around. Then if you still think they’re cool, be flirty friends, transition quick though, so you don’t give the impression you’re not interested. Then if that works out you’re already 80% of the way there, you’re socializing and flirting and not being awkward.
If you don’t have friends, make friends first. Even if you somehow manage to find a partner when you have no friends, you’ll destroy the relationship because you’ll expect the partner to provide 100% of your socializing and interpersonal needs, which isn’t really plausible.