It makes me (18m) really sad when my bf (24m) is depressed. Sometimes he runs hot and cold and says he doesn’t know if we should break up or not but then he says it feels right to be with me and he wants to stay.
Sometimes he doesn’t like doing stuff for me even when I do stuff for him or doesn’t like my interests much but wants me to like his. However, he can’t do much of anything or talk right now because he’s very depressed.
He’s not like himself, and it’s sort of making me feel depressed. How can I help without making myself extremely depressed too? I feel like I understand why he stopped doing certain stuff, and he says he can’t show love for me like he could for his exes. He said it felt right to be my bf but that he didn’t know if we should date.
Leaving his abusive dad is fair but he needs to take steps to improve his mental health either way. Healing from trauma takes time and needs professional help. There’s a saying, you can only lead a horse (or animal /entity of choice) to water, but you can’t make them drink.
Does he do it later? And how often are you dealing with him belittling your tastes?
Again do you think this is a relationship that can endure? Can you endure this? Do you see him changing how he sees himself?
I completely agree, no he doesn’t do it later and I couldn’t endure it apparently, because we broke up
Damn, that was fast.
I wish you the best with your love life. You deserve someone who takes an interest in you and things that make you happy, and does nice things for you.