Hey all, hope everyone is doing well.
I’m curious if anyone out there has made a conscious decision to not date or be in a relationship anymore.
If so, what was your rationale? Do you feel it was the right decision? If you’re currently considering it, why?
I’ve been a bachelor for 5 years now. With long periods of being single prior as well.
I am happier and healthier when I’m not in a long-term relationship. Even in the most kind relationships, I slowly become depressed, self destructive, and unhappy. I’ve never been able to discern why, but what I have discerned is when I fly solo I am more myself than ever.
When I think I miss having a partner, after taking a moment to reflect and be honest with myself, I realize I mostly just miss the more reliable access to sex-- which isn’t a good nor fair reason to pursue a relationship. This reflection also solidifies my conclusion that I have no business being involved with someone in a romantic manner.
Feel free to ask me questions.
Thanks for this!! The why part is always an interesting question. Something that is supposed to be enjoyable turns out to not be. Understandable the what makes it “bad” can be elusive.
True, sex for the sake of sex doesn’t sound like a great reason for a relationship. But, you’re aware of that and can manage it appropriately. Having said that, a romantic partner may not be the best choice but a partner looking for the same thing shouldn’t be out of the question.
Again appreciate the perspective.
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Yes.