Yeah all the queer Chinese people I’ve talked to about this have told me the only issues they’ve had is with their family members being homophobic about them specifically. Many people I’ve talked to didn’t have this experience because their parents were fine with it, so it’s not everyone’s experience, but it does seem to be the most common manifestation of homophobia, directly from family to the person being discriminated against.

Apparently there is even some conversion therapy type outfits that parents put their kids in

You’re right it’s incredibly safe to be openly gay in the streets of ‘western’ cities, but speak to ‘western’ queer people about how their families reacted to them coming out and you’ll see that conservative attitudes are still very prevalent, especially amongst older people.

😇 lol sorry, tbh my parents are coming around but its been a decade of work, forcing myself to family events and continuing to be myself