How high are you OP?

A while back I applied with the USPS and got called in for an interview. It wasn’t a real interview, but more of a presentation on all the required next steps to be hired (there were at least 20 of us in the room). I ended up getting a different job before my start date, but if you were able to do all the steps by the deadline the job was yours.

That is the example that OP referred to in their question

I wouldn’t worry too much about it. It sounds like he is very shy and inexperienced. It’s probably just excitement/nerves. You can ask if he likes hugging or if he’d prefer something else. If he says he likes it, I wouldn’t bring it up anymore.

You need to have a conversation about timelines at the very least. This is not sustainable. Does her additional commitment have an end date? Or is there a way to move to less extreme hours as she gains seniority at her job?

Having a timeline for when things will return to a more normal amount of time together will make it easier in the meantime. Also, if you can agree to a date night where you disconnect from your devices and do something together at a regular schedule may help you keep from feeling as much relationship strain.

if I did, I would have to be obliged and follow their cultures

This doesn’t seem true to be. There is no culture police who will come and enforce the way you live your life to follow the norms of your ethnic label(s).

I don’t have a culture

This is impossible. Everyone has a culture. You may not follow all the cultural norms or traditions of where you are from, but it is guaranteed that who you are was impacted by the culture you were raised in. There is no such thing as neutral, otherwise you are saying your personal culture would fit in everywhere in the world (Mexico, USA, Italy, Russia, Japan, Philippines, etc).

What do you think the term Latino means, and why don’t you want to identify as one?

FYI Central America is also in North America

To me it sounds like that hope could ultimately lead to resentment in the long term if they don’t take on your values. You say it won’t effect your actions, but it sounds more like you are lying to yourself about it’s importance.

How would it make you feel if you started dating someone and they “hoped” you would eventually give eating meat a shot because it was something they valued deeply and they thought it might subconsciously influence you in that direction?

I could write a whole essay about how my ex used to make me feel the same way, and how breaking up was the best thing they ever did for me. But the version of me that was in that relationship, would have read all the advice to break up and would have rationalized why that wouldn’t work for me. OP has to decide for themselves to inflict the short term pain of a permanent breakup to be able to find happiness in the long-term.

For me it wouldn’t have felt right, because the only times I was happy in that relationship was when we were together. They only hurt me when we were apart. Breaking up didn’t seem like the solution, when just being together all the time seemed to be the solution. In hindsight, that was just codependency and was wildly unhealthy.

Nearly a decade later, I now know what a healthy relationship feels like. I’m so much happier than I ever would have been in that relationship. I hope OP can find the strength to move on and experience the same thing.

FYI, OP, it took years before I could think about my ex without it hurting. Rip the band-aid off, and the pain will eventually subside. If you stay in the relationship, it will always hurt like this because it is irreparably broken.

You deserve a relationship that does not negatively impact your mental well-being.

It’s ok. English is my first language and I don’t understand what OP means by “cold camera shoe.”

This reminded me of my first year at uni when a guy decided to speak in a fake British accent, I guess to sound cooler. Unfortunately for him, we could all tell it was fake and that made him decidedly uncool (and the butt of a lot of jokes). I think he gave it up after a couple of weeks.

The fact is, the coolest thing you can do is be confident in yourself (including how you sound when speaking naturally).

I’ve been here since June, and it’s never had karma score calculated for the profile. My understanding was that they didn’t want to promote karma farming like is done on Reddit.

You were 20 and she was 17 when you started dating. People change a lot at those ages. It doesn’t sound like you are happy in this relationship any more (maybe you are and this was just written out of frustration, but from what you wrote it sounds like this relationship doesn’t benefit you in any way).

You’ve spent the last 5 years doing this and being unhappy. How many more years of your life are you willing to give up to a relationship that doesn’t sound healthy?

I mean the ones that come instantly to mind would be The Emperor’s New Groove and Aladdin

There are numerous science, sociology, political science, etc communities…

Regardless, if you don’t want people to question the news source it was probably a mistake post it (here or elsewhere) instead of posting the thing you actually wanted to discuss.

Then why share a shitty article from a biased source instead of the study directly?

In addition to this, understanding the emotions you are experiencing and being able to put a name to them will help. A lot of cultural expectations pressure men to only feel anger/happiness, but there is so much more nuance. Being able to recognize that and, eventually, communicate it will be massive to this undertaking.

I’d recommend using something like an emotion wheel to define how you are feeling at any given moment in time.

Decided to read the article for shits and giggles.

They are blaming BLM for police refusing to do their jobs. Also they seem to be blaming them for the spike in murders during COVID lockdowns, which seems more likely to be related to everyone’s mental health breaking down due to the pandemic.