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  • i mean, thats great! but the moneys gotta come from somewhere, and in most cases someone else is being exploited.

    most non-profits actually suffer from this issue where getting funding is the number one priority.

    the organization has to bend its methods to what will look good on paper vs what would actually be best for their cause



  • theres companies making money off of prison labor, if u want a not very subtle example. in the US, prisons are also for-profit institutions, making it even more insidious.

    then ur typical capitalist labor situation ofc. ur boss makes more off of their workers labor than their workers get paid. this “surplus value” is how bosses get richer than the ppl who work for them; all without having to do any actual work of their own.

    ow also landlords who rent housing to ppl for a price, often providing very little or even no maintenance at all for that building. this exploits peoples need of shelter for the landlords personal gain, as landlords squeeze as much money out of ppl as they can get away with (also for example, keeping security deposits for no good reason).













  • I’m just sick of bi erasure in queer communities, being belittled by being called “half gay, half straight”. Or even “oh you’re just a cishet who wants to fit into queer spaces”.
    No. I am bi. Not half this, half that, not pretending.

    im sorry you had to experience that and i agree with you there.

    bisexuality is its own thing and should be understood as such, not written off as a combination of two other sexualities and nothing more (and even so, claiming that ppl in queer spaces are just “pretending” is ofc incredibly harmful to everyone).

    having said that, bisexuality is often (imo incorrectly) defined as being attracted to men and women. which excludes nonbinary ppl, even tho many bisexuals are also attracted to ppl outside of the binary genders.

    so i think in this context, its comforting for me to think of the bi- in bisexual as meaning homo- & heterosexual (nb inclusive), rather than men & women attraction.

    however as i said, this should not be used to understand bisexuality beyond just a surface-level and should never be used to discriminate or make judgements on someones “queerness”.

    I genuinely did not know about people who define themselves as non-binary men or women, could you help me understand?

    so theres many different nonbinary genders ofc (its a spectrum so technically… infinite?).

    i identify as a demi-girl, which is someone who identifies as a woman, but not strongly enough to be considered fully on the binary side of it. perhaps it helps to visualize it on a spectrum with binary men on one side and binary women on the other. demigenders would be sort of, half-way between the center and one of the ends. making them non-binary but also perhaps more of one binary gender than the other.

    hope this helps as just an idea. please keep in mind tho that this ofc doesnt fit for everyone who identifies as demigender, its just my understanding of it for myself.


  • I as a man can only be heterosexual if I exclusively am attracted to women.

    “homo-” means same or similar. “hetero-” means different or other.

    i am not usually the kind who immediately cites definitions of words, however in this case, this is how the prefix is used and understood all over the scientific world https://www.etymonline.com/word/hetero-

    your definition of heterosexuality is very unusual to me and as a bisexual nonbinary woman, it definitely does not fit for me.

    im curious tho, do heterosexual nonbinary ppl exist in your definition here? or is that mutually exclusive? and whats the equivalent of nonbinary ppl who arent attracted to other ppl of their own gender but only those of a different gender?

    lastly,

    And enbies are not women, even if AFAB. They are neither man nor woman, that’s what makes them non-binary, that’s the point.

    nonbinary men and women exist and are valid gender identities.