i’ve got a heater in my garage keeping it about 45*f all winter, but a cool corner in a basement would work as well. depends on your region too. some folks are lucky enough to just leave the root vegies in the ground over winter.

onions i’ll use quick. about 1/3 of the potatoes will be stored with my dahlia tublers as seed potatoes. been pulling handfulls for meals the past few months. the rest will be eaten at thanksgiving. the carrots and parsnips i’m trying out hay in cardboard boxes this year.

the past two i did milk crates lined with a trash bag, then layered play sand over the carrots. so there was enough separation between each carrot to prevent rot from spreading. it works really well but it’s a pain to move those crates around.

larping stardew valley

nah i get it, i assumed good faith on your part as well. i skimmed through some threads in that sub and all i wanted to do was start jumping saying “guys just pause a second so we can talk about some of this language”. but thats absolutely not the place for me to do that.

it would be as productive as the guys who’d go into r/twoxchromosomes posting “explain like i’m 5 why my wife left over not doing the dishes enough”. assumimg good faith, i get he’s thinking “ok this is where other women who have done this talk, i’ll ask them”. there wasnt anyplace else to send the dude, so a few people would try responding. but it always devolved into language policing, because not doing so in that space would forfit the sub to the people it was designed to be safe from. i never commented in that space specifically because it was their sub and i was just there to understand perspectives. i was a guest in their home.

people need to be able to use the only words they know with the meaning they understand them to have. before they can do any self reflection or understand why it becomes important to adjust our language for eachother sometimes.

i spent all of a minute poking around. not a topic i deep dive in really. more hoping to pose the question of “hey do we maybe have a space like this?”. someplace where people having a shared perspective would have the patience for eachothers early questions they once had.

i’m not on reddit but a few minutes poking around there it doesn’t look crazypants. so i’ll add it to my comment too.

We have to do both things. we have to get everyone we possibly can paying attention and work on peaceful ways to move ideas forward. i’m gonna keep saying make unions the base of* the dems. and point to minnesota who still has the democratic farmer labor party and pulles off some neat* shit.

there simply are not enough people available to do it quickly. it always ends with the people we claim to want to help being hurt. and we end up piled on top of them by some authoritarian we made a deal with.

now if you want to discuss disruptive actions that could need to be taken over the next few years. especially while throwing out the word arming. i’d like to kindly remind you we are in an armed police state on a Public. Fucking. Server. and point out that molitivcocktail hour does not announce itself and is never the option WE choose.

fair point. sounds like theres a need for a space to have these conversations. with people effected by the topic and moded by people on the otherside of the joirney, who could have empathy in the difficult moments. anyone know of a space? i’ll try engaging where i can.

half joke first. nobody’s trying to meddle in our bodily autonomy, yet.

edit: i havent looked too close at it but the mensliberation space on lemmy.ca may interest you? cancermancer down bellow has a rec for r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates that looks to have another good perspective in the topic. so im sticking it right here with the other.

I’ll try to approach the topic from my perspective as well. my gender has never really be part of my internal view of myself. but it is an inescapable part of how other people will see me, and the rules are always whatever the other person wants. so maybe not the poster child for speaking on masculinity. i’m literally the default charater generator in every videogame, but it’s just a hallucinating meat suit.

talking about gender concepts and social roles was a norm growing up because i did that growing up in the weird outside groups the christian kids chased. any reference to maculinity was done at me as an attack, even when i was doing it according to the rules. i agree, there are few places for young men to explore their way out of those strict views. especially in the early years. i’ve often seen them jump straight into spaces meant to be safe for people who’ve had not great experiances with the topic, especially women. and press other people to do all the work, explain things to them and navigate their often* harsh language. and i get it. when you’ve only ever been allowed to express 3 levels of the same emotion, it’s gonna be rough sorting that out.

it’s going to be on people who have worked their way through that mind set to make those places for kids to start the process. most importantly, people who share their experiance and perspective. yes folls like me can and really need to come in there and talk openly. but my own experiance is never going to line up in a way that will connect with those kids. even when i look exactly like our experiance should line up.

…if theres more spelling mistakes then there are more spelling mistakes. fuck it thats too much text for a phone

the squash bugs found me, so i had to adjust my timeline with the big pumpkins. the two smaller green are ‘dark knight’, i was trying them out but don’t think i’ll do them again. Then theres my one sad lonely winter squash.

I wish you luck saving them. its been an interesting year.

make sure to remove any blooms before you spray if you havent used the stuff in the past. neem oil and every fungicide ive seen screw with reporoductive cycles of friend and foe alike. i say that as much for anyone else stumbling onto this thread.

alternating neem oil and “Bonide Captain Jack’s Copper Fungicide”. the fungicide was just the cheapest one i saw on amazon when it became clear neem oil wasnt gonna be enough this year. my 4b winter was weak, closer to 6a, so fungi have been going crazy. all the lilac leafs turned black and fell off in july across the whole region. like they decided to nope out of summer and start fall right away.

almoat lost a couple roses to that early this spring so i’ve been spraying obsessively. mildew seems to be under control so far.

there had been beans and corn in there early on. the pumpkins had other plans. they’d even made it onto the plum tree but a storm yanked them off last week.

because being excited about a new hobby isnt cool. actually starting a new hobby is an insult to all the people who’d been real fans of the hobby before you. this is the internet.

oh i had to go biological warfare on the masquito larve twice in the first three weeks before i add the duckweed and small solar fountains.

theres a little one in the back that creats a dorky waterfall to keep the water circulating. so far the duckweeds kept evaporation down and the toads keep the misquitoes in check.

couple beams to sit on and watch bees visit. the beams and the planter shade half the pond to help keep the temp down. so now i have a couple toads hanging out. the planter bottom slopes so water runs off the sides instead of into the pond. but i didnt get enough sand an rock in the bottom layer of it. so the soil in the planters been too wet for most things this season.

“it’s possible i buried a self delete timebomb in one of our repos years ago. enjoy looking for it just incase assholes”

this is how i see other sysadmins when they explain their 30yr old bash script that does everything.