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  • Gatekeeping isn’t inherently misogynistic or conformist, but the motivations in cases like this probably are.

    I also don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask people not to publicly associate themselves with a thing if they know nothing at all about that thing.

    Nobody owes anyone an explanation of how entitled they are to wear a band’s t-shirt.

    I’ve listened to enough iron maiden to know that I like the band, but could only name one song off the top of my head. Do I have your permission to wear their t-shirt?

    You’re channeling the same energy as someone that feels entitled to know about a stranger’s genitals if their bone structure seems misaligned with the gender they’re presenting.

    It’s so easy to not be an asshole watch this:

    Slayer fan:

    Iron maiden! Nice! I saw them play at XXXX back in XXXX. It was a wicked show.

    Iron maiden fan:

    Oh wow, that sounds so fun! I’ve just learned about them, but I’d love to see them in concert someday. The metal community is so welcoming!

    Or:

    Oh wow. I don’t really listen to them, but they were my cousin’s favorite band, she died recently, so I wear this shirt when I’m missing her.

    Or:

    Oh wow, I was at that show too!

    Or:

    my uncle is the drummer and is always giving me these

    Or:

    Uh huh? I just like the colours of the shirt.

    Life is so much better if you don’t make nasty assumptions.


  • She doesn’t owe him anything.

    It’s basically accusing her of cultural appropriation, just for wearing a t-shirt she likes.

    The question implies skepticism that she is an authentic fan. It’s a form of gatekeeping, based in misogyny and rigid social conformity.

    Even if she doesn’t really know iron maiden’s music, so what? It’s perfectly reasonable to choose your shirts based on styles and colours you like. I wore a Popeye the sailor t-shirt yesterday, I would not be prepared to talk about my favorite episodes.


  • We would not get state level military support from any ally. China, Russia, Iran, North Korea, and Cuba might help us.

    The type of build up that would be effective (if it could even be called that) against a US invasion would be sapping roads and bridges like Switzerland, and transforming our army into a resistance/insurgency force. Should we re allocate our spending towards these aims?

    It seems a little premature.

    Maybe we should actually invest in helping Canadians (and Americans) engage with and value democracy and human rights.








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    Height is such a bad thing to filter based on.

    My wife’s best friend was complaining about how she goes on lots of dates but there’s never a real connection. She is a little taller than average but insisted she needed a guy at least 6’2" (so he would be at least X" taller than her when she was wearing X" heels).

    That’s just a terrible priority if you want a real connection.

    Because you want to have to tilt your head up at least 20° (?) to kiss while wearing high heels, you’re willing to eliminate 95% of bachelors? Have you considered the logistics of kissing while you’re not wearing high heels?

    But the criterion was like a point of pride for her, like her ego wouldn’t allow her to look for someone less than 6’2". Super weird. Just not a good way to find a partner.



  • I’m a millenial home owner, that would not really mind seeing a radical adjustment of housing prices. (Because I want my friends to be able to own their homes)

    Unfortunately, I think Trudeau’s right.

    GenX spent their entire lives trying to catch up with the boomers. Boomers got great careers and big houses in the city, lost a bunch of money in the dotcom bubble, and lost a bunch of money in 2008, but were mostly okay.

    GenX got mediocre careers (less manufacturing, more outsourcing by the time they entered the work force) more competition for existing jobs (women now expected to work too). They got houses in the suburbs and had long commutes. While Boomers lost money in dotcom and 2008, GenX lost jobs. The Boomers won’t retire from the cushy management jobs so GenX is stuck in middle management.

    Now that Boomers are finally retiring GenX feels it is time to get PAID!

    They don’t have the penions that the Boomers got, but their suburban houses are a lot closer to the city than anything that’s being built these days. They’re depending on that value to retire.

    These millenial upstarts want to pull the rug out from under them? There would be blood in the streets.

    Just my impression though, idk.





  • It does sound like the student is witnessing calls for the elimination of Israel, which is (in my opinion) way too close to calls for genocide to be tolerated in a school. I’m not sure an art teacher can be faulted for not understanding the geography and history of the conflict well enough to recognize that the map is showing a Palestine displacing Israel, and the students that made the map probably don’t understand that depicting Palestine displacing Israel is (I believe) reasonably understood as a call to genocide.

    I’m not sure what the school can reasonably do.