Can’t catch a break

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Cake day: October 12th, 2023

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  • It’s all in the texture for me. The denser, somewhat chewy bagel is really nice and holds up to cream cheese a lot better than sandwich bread. They are amazing open face with cream cheese. Some folks like them with butter. It’s fine, but I do love cream cheese far more. I’ve had bagel sandwiches, which can be really good, but I do find them to be really heavy. (Plain or blueberry bagel, with cream cheese and sliced ham is my go-to for a bagel sandwich.)

    You can get all sorts of flavors of bagels, like cinnamon, blueberry, and onion. You can get schmear (cream cheese spread) with many different varieties of mixins too, like herbs, fish, and lemon! I think my favorite combo is an onion bagel with garlic herb schmear.

    That being said, I do love a good sandwich too.







  • I prefer to have some ingredients that are more flexible over having a specialized product that only makes few things or just one thing.

    I do like to bake and I cook a fair amount, so ingredients like flour, baking soda, baking powder, and sugar go far in my household.

    Sometimes my family needs to go on special diets and having more control over what goes into my food helps a lot. (That low FODMAP diet was a bitch.)

    But that’s just my situation. These types of mixes save a lot of time and effort. Can’t really knock that.


  • I remember your old posts. You made the right call.

    It’s hard to tell how long you will be sad. For me, I was sad in the beginning because I missed the good times in the relationship and the things that I wished the relationship could have been. It faded the more I remembered the bad times and how much they weren’t worth any good times, and how my own vision of what I wanted the relationship to be would never come to fruition.

    You might logically know it, but you won’t truly know it after some time. Don’t beat yourself up over that.

    Right now, focus on yourself and your healing. It might take a week. It might take a month or even a few. But either way you can get through this, and when you do, you will be tougher and wiser. You got this!


  • I feel you. I basically fell off the face of the earth for like 10 years. I was fighting just to survive and the only thing on my mind was to get to the next day.

    I was too tired to even think about fun.

    Now that I am out of that funk, I worked on getting back to socializing. I feel like a lot of peers I had before are in a similar funk that I was. Just surviving. Sometimes it is because of bad decision making. But usually, not… They did their best and it wasn’t good enough to both pay the bills and have some time to enjoy themselves.

    You might be able to hang out with folks that have a similar amount of free time as you. It doesn’t have to be people you grew up with. You have a great opportunity where your own life is in a good spot, so you should have more time to pursue connections with people you would enjoy.

    Good luck out there!



  • No problem with quirky fonts! :)

    Image quality is fine if you download it in HD. (Many clients don’t download full quality right away.)

    However, the contrast between the font color and the background makes it very hard for me to read. The font is a bit distracting too but I could manage it with a little extra effort.


  • How fulfilled is your life without a romantic partner? Do you know what you want?

    The worst partners I had were the ones that had nothing going on. No goals, no hobbies, nothing. They expected me to be their world.

    The better relationships I had were with people that knew what they wanted from life. They didn’t need me to complete them, but I was definitely a welcome addition.

    I do not believe I am conventionally attractive, but there are people that like me. For every fella that only dates skinny blondes, there’s another that wouldn’t give them a second look. Additionally, if someone really likes you for you, you might just get more physically attractive to them even if you’re not their type. (It has happened to me!)

    As for money, yes some people will only look at you if you have a lot of money. At least they filter themselves out if you don’t have it. You don’t have to be perfect with money, but as long as you are reasonable enough with money, you should be fine.

    Some low self-esteem is workable, but if you are always ragging on yourself it gets grating. I was with this guy and he kept telling me how ugly he was. I would always reassure him. It was exhausting after a while. I think everyone needs validation every now and again, but constantly?! Ahhh!

    If you get this stuff down, at least then you will have better chances with women. (Or whatever gender you prefer.) If your only goal is to get a girlfriend, then that is not so great. If it’s only one of your goals or something you’re passively open to, then you are in a much better position. Relationship opportunities, romantic or not, seem to crop up when you’re doing something else you enjoy.