Dylpickles

I absolutely think you should wait until you secure a new place.

As someone who has done the breakup thing with someone I’m living with, and also broken up with someone after helping them find a new place to live (I used our cats not getting along as an excuse). I can say with no doubt in my mind that I preferred the situation where another place to live was found first. It’s better for finances and it’s better to give y’all time away from each other.

There are a few and especially imo one fuckin major downside though to moving then splitting: the splitting of the items. Living with someone post breakup you have way more time to start really taking inventory of what is yours. Depending on how cordial y’all are I’ve also seen it workout such that it COULD result in you remaining friends easier.

That being said, in my experience at least, that being friends by living together depends WAAAYY more on the person in question. Like I lived with an ex and it was fine but I’ve also lived with an ex and they were fuckin nuts sneaking into my room and looking through my shit all the time.

Disclaimer: My current situation is goofy bc me and the person I’m with are like back and forth on even wanting to date but we’re so intertwined in each other’s financial situations that like I can’t decide if they wanna stay with me bc they actually like me or bc they’re so concerned about not being able to afford life.

I do really see both sides to this. At the end of the day though getting away from one another is necessary 99% of the time. If you want to be friends you need time away from one another. Also, even if you’ve been with them a long time it’s nearly impossible to tell how fuckin crazy a breakup will make someone.

I had a seemingly normal loving person i was with for 3 years (the one I helped get her own place that i mentioned earlier) just destroy my room when one of my roommates let her back in after our breakup.

That pop up camera on the OnePlus 7 pro.

That thing was cool as fuck. My roommate got the phone and I was VERY jealous even though I had a OnePlus 8T at the time.