This is the second time I’m hearing stark criticism of The Canary. Thanks for the info, I’ll try to be more critical with their stories.

Euphoooooooria 😊

Was pretty overwhelming in the shops with the choices and all. Never liked clothes shopping.

Only went for top pieces, with the blouse in the picture and a similar one in green. Also a little vest and shirt underneath.
The vest absolutely sucks. Definitely gonna return that one. And while the blouses both seem a size too small, I was so happy trying them on. omfg. That this is even possible. I actually lack the words to articulate myself.

Lmao, longer than my longest relationship ever.

I’ve felt more intense connection in more open relationships with massive breaks and stuff than “being together” ones.
I’ve made out with random people on the street, had short flings, one-sided relationships, etc. all these experiences helped in a crazy number of ways. I definitely have a very clear idea of what works for me and what doesn’t now, which I didn’t have back then.

It actually disgusts me to think of someone having a side-piece. I think it’s dehumanizing.

But I’m not here to tell you what to do :)

Yeah, visibility/exposure carries risks. But it also provides protection.

I decided not to care. It’s a risk I’m willing to take, and whatever may come, I won’t regret it.

All I wanted to do was make people feel some fun and giggles.

To keep people down, they literally have algorithms to make people miserable and hateful. So in a way, you can become a target, and I’m not even joking. Also, people just wanting to kill light, I guess.

If you decide to keep this account, I’d suggest not deleting it in the event that something should happen, and then document everything. There’s more motivation for a crime in darkness than one in broad daylight.

I’m sorry if this is a bit rough to read. I don’t think anything will happen, and certainly hope so. But I thought I’d share some basic security I believe in, for the rather open way in which you engage with this platform, to maybe make you feel safer.

Ooooh, I’ll have to look into that! Thanks :)

Urgh, I really do not enjoy being fooled by AI.

Sorry folx.

Thanks for the heads up. That’s good to know.

You accuse me of phobia.

No, I don’t. That was referring to the parent post.
Thanks for the lesson in not engaging in arguments unless absolutely necessary. What a fucking shit show.

Then can you, please, extend your respect and kindness to not indulge the actual transphobic misinformation there? As well as not stoking the flames over a single downvote? This shit is derailing the fun thread.

Every day I live is a cold revenge against the people who don’t want me alive.

:)

Oh, you bet I’d post it to !unixsocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone !

Thank you for this write-up. Pretty cool story to read by itself :)

aside from that, it took me a while to feel confident going out with makeup

That’s also what I have the most qualms about (or only qualms, kinda).

Thankfully the climate here is rather hot, without long, or particularly cold winters, so I can keep it light for now (wallet wise, too) :)

Saw a thread about putting together your favorite food and a diagnosis to make up a name. So I used that when asked for a username, but miss-typed ‘taco’. At the time I thought I was cis, so it’s kinda nice to have a more nb fitting username carry over.

Everyone grins when they see it.

Yuuuuup :)

It’s pretty cute and kinda subtle. I like it.

“If you’re gonna smoke a cigarette, enjoy it.” - yoga instructor

My tantrums are like putting up a picture askew. People think it’s wrong, but they’re too busy ‘correcting’ the picture, that they don’t see my shit-eating grin.

Let people have fun!

It does suck though, when it’s serious, or they have trouble differentiating and pull the crying-wolf card. Also cruel.

In the name of the hiss, the scratch, and the holy meow, I hereby assign you a cat at birth, postnatally.

Ooooooooom

(>^‎ _^)><(‎ ^‎ _‎ ^‎ )><(^‎ _‎^<)

🧙🐱🐈🧙

It’s done. You’re ACAB now.

Shoes are also a struggle, but my feet really changed with HRT and now I fit women’s sizes much better.

That’s really interesting. I had to go to a special store that made women’s shoes in sizes most stores don’t.

By noticing people complaining about it :) Also being aware of certain biases and such, and looking for the existence of posts that would be deleted if the bias was heavy, etc.

Sure, some stuff might fall under the radar or stay for a long time, definitely a thing.

I think many people feel this way, and I think in many cases another thing that plays into it is not realising the amount of good moderators, because good moderation usually doesn’t make as much noise as when it’s bad.

If I think of all the communities in lemmy/piefed I like, the perfect/near perfect moderation from my browsing heavily outweighs anything problematic.

Damn, yeah ideas like this, and wearing the clothes only at home is pretty much what’s on my mind, too.

I also had no idea about fashion back then so I had to experiment quite a bit and it took me a few years to really understand what looks good on me and what doesn’t.

x.x I’m gonna be extra friendly to my woman friends, so they will help me with make-up and stuff :)

Also happy to hear you had fun and didn’t regret it.

Looks like we effectively agree.

I think if we to improve the state of NSFW content we also need to be very specific in our wording of the criticism because how criticism is worded can change the context and as we agree, context matters.

Agreed! I think Multiverse made quite the effort and did a decent job. Misunderstandings and mistakes still happen, which is why just talking like this to get to our goal can be useful :)

And I think you also blurred that line with the fiction story example.

Thanks for the feedback. Reading it again now, I wouldn’t know how to express it differently. But I can see how this might not be clear to people not living in my head. Useful to know.