QueerCommie [comrade/them, she/her]

Neurodivergent contrarian nihilist cracker who knows gender is stupid.

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Cake day: March 30th, 2022
  • QueerCommie [comrade/them, she/her]@hexbear.nettochapotraphouse@hexbear.net•Hollywood writers struggle to match the horrors of realityEnglish
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    6 days ago

    I have no idea what being deaf would actually be like. If it’s partial I’m already used to finding difficulty hearing things sometimes, so I imagine it would be a bit like my experience with derealization.

    Yeah, if shit hits the fan and I don’t have music or the internet that would suck. Also, I could dissociate again. I could be put in a situation forced to mask and “pay attention.”

    I mean it does seem like it would be harder to multitask and absorb information. Of course books are things, but my ADHD doesn’t like that I’m an average reader.

    I must admit that deafness would have some personal upsides too. I could focus without paying attention to annoying sounds. I could just get stimulants and be fine. My other senses would get more stimulating. Not sure what the echolalia would do or if I could make noises without knowing if it was at a volume people could hear. Suppose I could sign words to stim.

    I’d never really thought about going deaf before, thank you. I do stand by the statement that it is a “disability” because it makes certain things harder and requires accommodations, but I don’t pity the deaf.

  • QueerCommie [comrade/them, she/her]@hexbear.nettochapotraphouse@hexbear.net•Hollywood writers struggle to match the horrors of realityEnglish
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    6 days ago

    Thanks for your input, I agree. I actually do have reasoning why I don’t want to be deaf. It’s my AuDHD. I think I’m the auditory equivalent of hyperlexic. I can process very fast words and stuff and I have constant internal and external echolalia. Music is always playing in my head and I make a lot of noises and stuff. Hearing is like my most important sense. Podcasts and music are huge coping mechanisms. When I’m understimulated the only thing that can make me feel ok is simultaneously physical activity and music. I don’t think I could survive a world without headphones. I also need to multitask while I listen to people. It would be an interesting experience but I suspect were I deaf I would simply be understimulated all the time. I’m really curious what that would do for echolalia.

    I think that some people will naturally understand themselves more in terms of the non-disabling but still pathologized aspects of autism, and others will understand themselves more in the disabling aspects.

    I’m the type to tend to the former and even thinking like I’m superior, but given further thought I notice all the many accommodations I’m lucky to have, and how much I’ve struggled and the problems I still face. Thinking about it dialectically, it’s a plain truth that comparing any two things there will be relative positive and negative aspects, and even those aren’t isolated. I don’t wish I was neurotypical, but I can’t say I’m not disabled. At the end of the day, “disabled” is a sort of excuse that is helpful for getting people the help they need.

  • QueerCommie [comrade/them, she/her]@hexbear.nettochapotraphouse@hexbear.net•Hollywood writers struggle to match the horrors of realityEnglish
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    6 days ago

    Lol, I’m aware of the argument. Rather arbitrary and idealist. Anyway, sure deaf people can live together, but by definition they are disabled. They lack the ability to hear.

    For neurodivergence, I’ve seen multiple people that were like “I’m not disabled? I literally get overwhelmed by touching a bit of grass or feeling sun on me.” Sure they can have shoes on and stay inside, but some of us also can’t stand shoes and love touching grass. I’ve spent a lot of time in very neurodivergent spaces, and it’s still a lot. As an AuDHDer most ADHDers overwhelm me, and I’m too much for most autists. Even in an ND utopia we’d all have to have lots of education and meds and hyper specific accommodations.

    nonsense edit

    Elaborating on critique of the model, why should our standard be “everything would be fine if [group] just lived with each other and made their own rules?” This is a terrible equivalency, but “Racist white people arent deficient in anything, they just belong in “whites only” places.” Idk, I don’t want to sound ablist, just critiquing idealism. My point isn’t aspie=nazi, but that we’re all human and different and we need to understand each other and seek accommodations, not isolate.

    Of course all debate around language (“disabled”) is bound to be idealist, idk.

    Ultimately a reasonable criterion is what do these groups themselves want to be called? I’m not in the blind community but I know lot of NDs consider themselves disabled.

  • QueerCommie [comrade/them, she/her]@hexbear.nettochapotraphouse@hexbear.net•Hollywood writers struggle to match the horrors of realityEnglish
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    6 days ago

    The two groups of people who don’t necessarily have a disability but are seen by others as disabled are the deaf and neurodivergent.

    Why? My hearing is extremely important to me and I can’t imagine what I’d do without it. Sure, people can have fine lives without that sense, but it’s not non-disabling. Neurodivergence can have plenty of upsides but executive dysfunction, time blindness, stimulation needs, interoceptive difficulties, social difficulties etc are definitely disabling. While life under capitalism is bad for everyone, society was especially not made for us.