Oh hai ~ the weekly thread is back, yay!

Things are pretty good here. Weight is slowly dropping off, which is a relief (still lots to go); I’m two weeks into DIY, and stuff seems to be happening. It’s quite hard to be objective though. At least I have a backup plan in case the doctor is uncooperative.

Because of all the waiting I’m a bit worried about losing momentum, especially when the self-doubt creeps in. Well, screw that voice - I’m gonna be a woman anyway :3

Oh, and I bought some clothes in preparation for the cooler weather. The sleeves are all too short, so I’m (re-)learning to sew. Take that, fashion industry!

Aww, the world needs more people like you!

Seconded! Forced myself to do some voice training yesterday, and just… kept going for most of the rest of the day. Every time the playback sounds just right is worth a hundred mistakes.

Didn’t think I had any more egg left to crack, but I’m feeling very called out here! Generally unable to keep up with guy-talk, but get on really well with women and children. And you say transitioning gets you more of this? Bring it on!

Waiting…

… for my hair to get long enough for even a short feminine cut. I don’t really feel like wearing a wig, but I guess I might try a cute headscarf.

… to lose weight. I’m going about as fast as I safely can, and it’s noticeable, but there’s still a lot to go.

… for hair removal. Seeing the effects already, but gotta wait at least a month between appointments.

… for hormones. First appointment in six weeks or so. At least there’s DIY as a fallback.

But! I’m out to my family, and my immediate coworkers (I work from home anyway). So I can wear what I want, practice my voice and makeup, and things are good. I don’t wear anything more boyish than women’s jeans and a semi-fitted T-shirt (OK, fairly neutral), and I guess I’ll just tell anyone who asks. Just wish I could see in the mirror how I feel.

Had a nice long chat with the wife. Basically explaining the story so far, all those obvious-in-hindsight things. Talked about how I want to start HRT, and what that will entail. She’s cool with it becoming a same-sex marriage, and went as far as to say “I know you’re not the type to fool around, but if you decide you like men instead, that’s OK with me”.

Since coming out things have been noticeably friendlier (not in a euphemistic way, just actually talking about stuff in a warmer tone). Which is surprising, but I’ll take it!

Things might all turn out OK after all. ☺️

You got this! Math in particular feels like beating your head against a wall for ages until one day you suddenly get it (I studied it at uni, and everybody struggles).

Oh yeah, same here. I had my first session last week - they gave me the anesthetic cream for free because I paid up front. Gosh, this must really hurt, thinks me, starting to get worried because there wasn’t time to put it on before starting. The lady kept stopping and asking if I could stand the pain, but it didn’t hurt at all (the SMELL though…). That made me worry the laser wasn’t working on my hair (I’m dirty blonde, although my facial hair is a bit darker).

I can still see the shadow, but shaving this morning there was a lot less stubble than usual! There is hope!

Hiya, and congratulations! Newbie here.

Now that I’m no longer using junk food and booze to fill the gaping void in my life, I’m slowly but steadily losing weight (for the first time ever) - went down a belt notch today :) I wonder if my man boobs will stay to give me a head start?

Plus, first laser session in a few hours. Bye bye, beard!

Just about collected enough of a wardrobe that doesn’t look awful on me (ie the right size and not hyper-feminine) so that I can dress in women’s clothes all the time. Plus a growing pile of “don’t wear outside the house” and “possibly when I’m a different shape” reserves :) Wearing my old men’s stuff feels uncomfortable, so I threw most of it out except for a few items in case I need to emergency-stealth.

Makeup turns out to be not as obvious to other people than I thought! Went out the other day with eyebrow pencil, mascara and some light eye shadow, and even my wife (who in theory knows what I look like) couldn’t tell what I had used.

Otherwise it’s hurry up and wait. Consultation for laser this week, and maybe I can get on the list at the gender clinic for counseling in October (a GID diagnosis is required where I live).

just trying to do what you think is attractive

Oh yeah, that’s been a total brain-melt for me too. I think I’m starting to see a difference between “be her” and “be with her” attraction, but so far I’ve just been trying things out at random :)

I forget where it was, but I saw some photos recently of plus-size models (proportionally larger than me, I think) who were wearing skirts really well. Apparently there’s some idea of “dressing for body shape” which I guess I need to figure out…

Fashion be damned, I’m gonna wear a skater skirt and stripy socks at least once.

Hope you get it figured out! Good luck ~

I have disliked and largely neglected/ignored my body for most of my life and it’s nice to feel internal motivation to take care of myself and be healthy and i really hope that feeling sticks around.

Absolutely this! Is this how other people feel? It’s amazing!

So… pretty sure now I am a girl (still not cis tho!). Started off thinking I’d stealth in boymode until I could make the switch, but I kind of want to tell the world and be recognized as at least trying to present fem. I think my sister-in-law knows: nobody has ever complimented my clothes before, and it made me so happy! (even though it was something I got from the men’s department ages ago…)

Went into town to visit an LGBT support center and chat with some real-life trans people. At least I think they were; it didn’t seem right to ask. I hope I can look that natural eventually.

Skinny fit jeans! They make my legs look great! Anyone have suggestions for tuck-friendly underwear?

Next step might be to start to do something about the beard. That’s a bit scary though and I don’t know if my hair color will work for laser anyway.

Thanks, I’ll try that! My eyes are definitely very oily.

Yus! Buy all the dresses!

Things I’ve found out this week:

• wearing a skirt makes me look pregnant (way too much belly fat)
• makeup looks a lot better from a distance
• eyeliner won’t stick (tried liquid and pencil so far)
• I have no idea how to do makeup
• skincare makes a huge difference
• camisole over t-shirt rocks!
• buying clothes I like is fun!
• still look like a fat old man in drag :(

Objectively… quite good? But I feel terrible. The dysphoria is strong and I feel like I’m faking it.

• Told my wife explicitly I’m transgender. “Oh yeah,” she says, “you always had that kind of an air about you.” Now you tell me! Haven’t talked about transitioning yet.
• Since my egg cracked the desire to stuff myself full of junk food and get drunk has just vanished. I’m eating healthier and WAY less.
• Tried putting on makeup; just copying tutorials so far, but apparently I resemble my mother. Was aiming for something a bit younger though :(
• Bought a BLÅHAJ. If I’m going to jump on the trans bandwagon I might as well have something to hug.
• All the clothes in the women’s section are for people 20cm shorter and half my weight
• But I did find a cute hat. My face looks stupid beneath it, but I’m going to wear it anyway.
• I painted my nails, and I can’t stop staring at my hands. Awww yeah :3
• Noticed that I actually have quite feminine fingers (and incidentally a noticeable cupid’s bow). Win, I guess!
• I want to start HRT.
• Kind of hoping someone will call me a good girl?

Thank you <3

I’m honored, thank you! Billy Joel rocks!