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  • They are not all the same.

    Measure the diameter of the hole at the bottom of the water holding tank. It’s the main difference between older and newer toilets in the US.

    Any US toilet repair kit should list what diameter(s) it supports.

    Depth of the holding tank will vary as well, but most repair kits account for this. Some kits may require using a hand saw to cut some plastic tubes to fit smaller tanks. Other kits have an extendable or collapsible tube.






  • As your question is answered, I just want to add here - the last couple of decades of progress winning hearts and minds have not been erased.

    We had a black president and we almost had a woman president (twice). These good progressive events brought the many remaining shitheads out to vote.

    But there’s a lot of us out there who used to be completely ignorant to LGBTQ+ issues who are now aware and are trying to be allies.

    Another shithead in a fancy office can’t change that. (Though, yes, I’m sure he will try.)



  • Voting in the United States has always been primarily a way to protect the power of already powerful people, and secondarily a way to ensure incremental social progress continues at a pace that doesn’t make powerful people too uncomfortable.

    A lot of things about the way things are structured in US democracy make more sense with that context, including this, I think.

    Specifically, 70% of people both eligible and motivated to vote, voted to ensure eligibility to vote is not extended. This has happened many times throughout history, and only seems odd if we accept the fib that everyone is represented.

    In the context of gerrandering, first-past-the-poll “representation”, and various other forms of disenfranchisement; it makes sense that 70% of the people allowed to actually vote, votes in favor of continuing to restrict the vote (to themselves).





  • Big feelings are normal, but you gotta get out of your own head. You can’t guess what this relationship will be, and you don’t get to decide. There’s something between you, and you’ll both find out how much or how little with time.

    It got a lot easier for me when I learned to frame every interaction with the understanding that it might be the last, for whatever reason.

    Maybe their life gets busy, maybe they get a job far away, or maybe I get hit by a car. Life is capricious.

    To help me replace fantasizing about everything we might someday have, I try to think hard about what I want them to remember between now and next time we interact.

    I ask myself, “of the things I’m good at and comfortable being, which do they need today?”

    People always remember how we made them feel, the most.

    And sometimes I really do reconnect with an old friend and it’s like no time has passed. And sometimes I don’t, and just hope they remember me as fondly as I remember them.

    And sometimes, rarely, friendship grows into something much more. But my approach tends to be the same, however it goes. I try to consciously invest in people I like being around, and give them space to get just what they need from our friendship.