I’m always surprised to hear people unimpressed with others on dating apps. A couple of my friends have shared their “feeds” and I was struck by how many good-looking people are out there. But they would swipe away from just the smallest turn-offs becoming deal breakers. Like if I saw these people in real life, I would think of them as average looking at worst, many being remarkably attractive. This is in the 20s to mid 30s range like the tweet. I definitely understand deciding you’re incompatible based on politics or religion or culture but most of the time it would be for minor quirks. It felt like they were spoiled for choice in my eyes.

But then again, they’re in serious long term relationships with conventionally attractive and supportive partners now so maybe being picky pays off. At the time, their reluctance to settle was a very frustrating experience for them.

In America, literally 99% of livestock is factory farmed. Here, the idea of animals living a life that is anything but miserable on a farm is largely a myth. If you don’t expressly know how the livestock animal that was used for meat was treated, you can safely presume it was tortured.

People are demonstrably ok with animals being mistreated. They continually endorse the abuse in the industry when there are other options available to them. It is simply not important enough to people for them to bother changing their behavior.

There is an unstuck button. It’s in the bottom left if you hit esc iirc. I’ve used it a few times.

I second this. I am in a similar position as OP and now I donate to a fund through GiveWell (which is used by many people engaged in EA) directly since the start of this year. If you want your money to do the most good, look into them. They research and audit all kinds of charities and publish their findings on their site.

How is this a short history of liberalism? Historically, the liberal nations beat the fascist ones.

If this is in reference to Trump, then that’s an ongoing fight. Judges are generally doing what they can to stop his actions, even those appointed by Trump, to his chagrin. Given his rapid dip in popularity and historical trends, I would also expect Republicans to fare worse in Congress in the mid term election, meaning we can expect more pushback there too. Maybe even proper impeachment, but that might be too much to hope for right now. But I view it as a sign that the liberal system is working that he keeps running into checks and balances issues.

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Annie’s brand has some vegan mac and cheese options if you need a Velveeta replacement. There’s a good chance major grocery stores would have that. I haven’t been impressed with the flavor personally, but you could probably just add a bit more plant butter and vegan milk to get it more rich and creamy like Velveeta.

Aldi has some vegan options for cheap if there is one near you. The Earth Grown taco filling resembles ground beef a lot in my opinion, so there’s a lot of things you can add it to easily. They also have plenty of pasta options and things like potstickers that you can just stick in a microwave. I’ve been enjoying some of their meatless meatballs with marinara on toasted bread lately. They also have shredded dairy free mozzarella and chedder that can be good melted (otherwise the texture and aftertaste are off-putting for me).

Trader Joe’s also has a lot of frozen vegan meals in my experience, especially Indian stuff. Most of it you just stick in a microwave/air fryer/oven. They also have a “21 Seasoning Salute” which is a variety of spices and I like to add it to all kinds of things.

And there’s stuff like vegan pizzas, chicken tenders, and burgers that you can get through a lot of brands at plenty of grocery stores. I like them, but you do end up paying more for them compared to what they are mimicking.

Keep in mind that a lot of flavor for things can come from sauces and spices that you use with them. Even a small amount of something like vegetable/olive/coconut oil or stir fry/pasta sauce can save something that would otherwise be bland.

Its name is wordplay in Korean, where P means blood. But it is weird when translated.

From memory, much of its advice could be summarized with “act with humility, treat people well, and show an interest in what others have to say, and they will generally like you and be willing to do what you want”. It had a lot of anecdotes from people describing how they handled difficult confrontations with others as part of their jobs at usually small businesses. Notoriously annoying customers would reflect on their behavior and change it after someone hears out their complaints and offers to accommodate them.

It is manipulative and can be used maliciously, but it’s also just generally good advice to prevent and de-escalate conflicts. I don’t think it’s any more evil than a hammer is for its potential to harm people as well as build things.

That seems like an overreaction. It’s not like they’re doing it by purpose.

It’s not racist. People accuse others of that term too flippantly. It is ignorant though.

Language changes a great deal over time, and slurs are no exception. What is a completely inoffensive label at some point can be a slur later on. What is a mild insult in one area can be much more severe somewhere else. Sometimes what was a slur can be reclaimed and become acceptable, even positive. But that can also depend on who is saying it and other contextual details. I don’t know anything about “k!wifarms” but I wouldn’t assume malicious intent without more information.

That example looks much like the No True Scotsman fallacy, since a word is redefined later to exclude what would be exceptions to their claim based on an added qualification. Person A also made Person B get the evidence to refute their claim rather than fulfilling the burden of proof themselves. I know it’s not a formal debate or anything, but even so, bad faith arguments are just rude. Just own the mistake and say “you’re right, I was only thinking of first world countries/liberal democracies/developed nations/whatever”.

ITT: arguments about the Ship of Theseus

I’m sorry, I can’t understand what you are saying.

If everyone quit tipping at once, yes, that would mean immediate, dramatic change. But that is unrealistic. And some people not tipping in protest when it is expected while most continue the tradition is the worst outcome for the workers. It makes their material conditions worse but not to the point of achieving anything.

I don’t disagree with anything you said. But being a cheapskate is rude and will not solve the problem.

Not tipping is rude. You are not facilitating change by not tipping, because the burden of your choice is felt almost entirely by the worker you stiffed. The employer is not motivated to pay their employee more from reduced tips because they aren’t really worse off for it. Sure, maybe their employee eventually quits if they aren’t making enough, but tip industries typically have high turnover anyway, so the worker is already considered replaceable. The worker suffers from missing an expected part of their income, but they also lack the ability to make things better for themselves. So it’s just piling onto their bad situation.

If you want to get rid of tip culture, stop patronizing places that rely on tips to give their employees a living wage. That’s how capitalism works, businesses make changes in their power when something affects their bottom line. So you have to protest in a way that actually hurts the person with the power to change something, not someone caught in the crossfire. And of course, try to support reform that guarantees a living wage regardless of tips.

I used to use libby but the popular books at my library had months long waiting times so I just pirate now. It means I can read on my own time. Plus, I can get the audiobook versions and work/drive/shop/whatever while “reading”. It’s a game changer.

Putting aside an afterlife, common wedding vows have “for better, for worse, … in sickness and in health, until death do us part.” So at least for people using those vows, they are committing to stay together until one of them dies. A divorce would mean a failure to follow through with that commitment.