If only breaking the egg were that easy, young me was so stubborn and in denial it took going through fuck ton of pain and crippling gender dysphoria to finally make me understand and stop being stupid.

Tucking literally isn’t enough for me, I feel dysphoria because I have it, not just because other people see it. I still feel it and know its there. It feels gross, it makes me feel gross. I just wish it was gone 😭

Yes I really want it. I don’t really care about wearing these tight looking outfits. I just want to not have these things (my penis and my testicles) hanging between my legs, they’re disgusting. HRT has shrank them a lot but I would be much happier if they were completely gone and I had a vagina, or even nothing at all. I’d rather have nothing than have them. I did actually try to cut them off before but I didn’t have it in me to get little more than through the surface before backing out from the blood and pain.

Their exact words were “You are a freak who is pretending to be a woman, you are a man and will never be a woman” I then told them I’m getting bottom surgery to correct the problem they said “That’s not a thing, you were born with a penis and testicles and you’ll always have a penis and testicles. Facts over feelings.” I can’t say what they said afterwards because it had a lot of slurs. Suffice to say they weren’t smart enough to be saying my genitals will be male sex, they just meant I would always have a penis.

Yeah I did block them, and reported them. Doubt anything will happen to them for it though. Twitter sucks.

I want that so badly, even though I pass well enough now, I would love to be cute like that since I’m not super feminine as I am now. If I got the money I would use it to finally get voice surgery and bottom surgery.

Wasn’t even a BBEG, was just a random NPC in the party that party members would make fun of for being “a man pretending to be a woman”. The character remained in the party through the whole campaign and only served the purpose of being the butt of transphobic humor. I don’t even think they had good stats or abilities.

It always felt uncomfortable when they’d do it. I felt unsafe when they would do it. I bet if they saw me now they’d make those same jokes about me directly. Probably also mock me for pronouns. They weren’t good people, I don’t know why I hung out with them as much as I did. I guess I just wanted to feel like I fit in with others. Well I’m glad I never came out to them even when I found out, that would’ve been really bad for me, instead we just quietly went our separate ways.

I’m more of a beer gal myself but I could still go for some right about now. I really need to take the edge off.

I used to have a group I’d play DnD with, it was fun. We don’t talk anymore though because they are right-wing assholes and would never accept me as a trans girl, since they openly made fun of transgender people. There was an NPC character in one of our campaigns which was a “man dressed as a woman” who would always get mocked for it.

Doing okay I guess. Got harassed on Twitter yesterday by some right wing chud claiming that I’ll always have male genitals (really hope he’s wrong and I’ll be able to get surgery in the future 😭 )

Seeing them banned can feel even more cathartic. The trolls on Lemmy.world don’t care if you downvote them, they’ll just downvote you back. Some of them probably have multiple accounts and will just downvote you twice, while upvoting themselves. On blahaj and instances like it, there won’t be games, they just get banned.

Lemmy.world is a shitty instance, filled with transphobes and trolls. Would definitely recommend moving to a different one. I hear lemmy.blahaj.zone is really nice, they ban transphobes and their apologists on sight.

I don’t believe that with how many transphobes and trolls run wild there, and they might get banned from communities they still have their accounts on that instance. Who do you think they have that reputation with anyway? I haven’t heard anyone kiss their ass lately, I’ve heard people say anything from that they’re too big to manage effectively, to that they don’t care and allow transphobia to run wild. They aren’t what I think of when thinking of an example of “overall of quality and care”.

Don’t they have a conservative community there? Yeah, pass. They may not nearly have as many transphobes as .world but if they’re tolerant of conservative assholes, they might be in the near future.

Yeah it’s easy to spot when you know what to look for. Even if they do try to hide it, which this guy did a shitty job at.

Ada seems really cool, she does a lot for this community and won’t take shit from transphobes, which seem to be most of the people I see complaining about her, transphobes and their “centrist” apologists. IMO those are the one group of people you don’t try to please, them not being pleased is a good thing.

He doesn’t consider himself a right-wing extremist, yet he hangs out on Truth social, and admitted to it himself. That tells us all we need to know about what kind of person he is. Most people who aren’t rather far right wing don’t hang out on truth social, a platform by conservatives, for conservatives.

I was pointing out that out of the three that we have here, the .ml one has the least problems. Maybe it isn’t perfect but the .zip one is run by a transphobia apologist who literally did it in this community, and the .world one is crawling with with transphobes and transphobia apologists.

Maybe lemmy.ml as an instance isn’t super great, I can understand that. I know about the controversy with Nutomic. I just wanted to suggest an alternative to using the one on lemmy.zip and I don’t think it’s a great idea to use the one on lemmy.world because lemmy.world as an instance has a transphobia problem among their userbase, and it’s really bad to be there as someone openly trans or visibly queer.

I changed my post not to recommend lemmy.ml specifically, and instead be about the event itself without offering any recommendations of alternatives specifically. What matters most is that people here know about this and don’t continue using a community run by a transphobia apologist.

It’s almost certainly transphobic people or bots run by transphobic people. Either way people who don’t bring anything positive to the discussion and who bear hostility to the trans community, hence why I say the downvotes on the post can be used to find some of the more quiet transphobes and ban them.

what qualifies as “just asking questions”

You just highlighted a transphobic dogwhistle, where people claim to be “just asking questions” and their questions are by nature invalidating or attempting to be invalidating towards trans people.

if you want to know what I meant by downvotes in the thread, many people who are transphobic aren’t bold enough to express it directly, they do it indirectly claiming they are just asking questions or that they just don’t support that one basic things that trans people expect to receive. Some are even more less direct, lurking and hiding but they still express their distain and transphobia through downvotes. On Reddit they were practically anonymous. The fediverse though allows votes to be seen by instance admins, so it’s really easy for admins to find the ones doing this and give them the boot. Votes aren’t anonymous.

I already did provide you with criteria for what counts as transphobia, though from what you’ve said here you sound like a typical apologist and discussion will likely not go anywhere.