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can’t worry about old photos if you never let anyone take photos of you
hecc you, past me >:3
can’t worry about old photos if you never let anyone take photos of you
hecc you, past me >:3
Yesterday was the first time in my life I came close to self-harm. I bought some bralettes and gaffs to, I don’t even know, try to look more feminine I guess? But I tried them on and I looked, for lack of a better description, breathtakingly revolting. So bad I think I must have disassociated for about fifteen minutes, no thoughts no emotions, just pulling them off me like live snakes. Then I had a breakdown.
I had to fight the urge all day yesterday and today to delete this account, and my matrix account, and discord, and any other account I could remember, fight the urge to isolate myself from everyone and everything so I would never have to be perceived by anyone ever again.
My point is that corporations cannot be victims because they’re not people, they’re a legal construct. They cannot be victims any more than a table can be a victim when I spill my drink over it. The term “victim”, whether intentional or not, is an emotive word that invokes ideas of injustice and suffering.
Marketing teams and corporate executives convinced people and legal systems that corporations are people in an attempt to engender sympathy, personification, and to avoid responsibility for their own failures, like the case in this article where managerial and procedural failures by those in charge led to the ability for this ex-employee to be able to do what he did.
It’s their own fault if they didn’t take the reasonable precautions that anyone should be aware of when going in to business for profit.
Yes I did.
It’s their own fault if they didn’t take the reasonable precautions that anyone should be aware of when going in to business for profit.
Notice how in my original comment I added “through improper security” and “improper practices”.
If you are running a business and get robbed without security cameras, insurance, and other reasonable protective and preventative methods, then you are at fault.
victim blaming
Can’t tell if this is sarcasm, but corporations are not people, they are soulless, for-profit enterprises that will, for damn sure, abuse and exploit any one and any thing they can in the name of profit. They don’t get the defense of “victim blaming”.
If they open themselves up to malicious actors through improper security, or lawsuits due to improper practices, then that’s their own fault.
Thank you for this, your support really helped.
How have other transfems come out or explore their femininity more openly when they don’t look remotely feminine? I’ve been on HRT for 7 months or so, and I just don’t look feminine. I look a little more feminine than I did, but still not enough to be even close to looking natural or comfortable in feminine expression. It just… doesn’t look right. And that makes me feel weird which makes it look even worse.
I don’t want to come out to people, telling them that I feel like a woman, when I look and sound like a man. And it’s starting to limit me in doing feminine things that I need to do to look more feminine so it’s circular, I’m too insecure to book a hair or nail appointment because I look like a man. I hate all of it.
It feels like my partner wants to be supportive because it’s the right thing to do, but at an instinctive level she is unhappy and resentful as she was raised in an exceptionally conservative, highly-religious, eastern european family.
Which results in saying the right things, but pulling back short of any real support with passive aggression, apathy, and feigned ignorance. I’m not sure whether I’d prefer that to completely unsupportive.
Not so great. 6 months HRT.
I don’t look good in any feminine clothing. I’m too insecure to practice voice or makeup around my partner. Because I don’t look remotely femme I’m too insecure to look for a hairdresser.
My partner keeps pressuring me because I don’t like enough traditionally cis woman things, or don’t like them as much as I should, or that I still like some things that are not necessarily targeted towards cis women, and its ruining my self-confidence. I need local transfem friends I can reach out to and hang out with and go shopping with but its not easy being older and non-US.
Once step forward, three steps back.
Gosh I’ve had way too much time to think this week, just turned myself in to an anxious mess. I don’t really have any friends and I desperately need to fix that but I don’t know how to start or even how to be a good friend after so much self-isolating. How do people do it?
I also need to start practising with makeup and skincare, even if its just simple things like eyeliner and moisturizers but I keep getting insecure and procrastinating! And I need to stop whining about my problems instead of doing something about it! 😂
Edit: Oh, and I just found out the service I use to get my HRT (GenderGP) removed the ability to contact them and “improved” their system with an £8/15min appointment booking, that’s so much better! /s
My egg really cracked when I realised I didn’t have to be alone and I found somewhere to talk about what I was experiencing: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/5765509
My hair is getting longer but it is still in the awkward phase, my diet is kinda off-track but i’m starting to accept i’ll probably never have a flat tummy, and I found my newest unrealistic transition goal! So all in all, an okay but not amazing week!
I love this, specially with the matching audio recordings and clear explanations of what we’re aiming for. Thank you so much! ❤️
Maybe I’m just too impatient but I struggled a lot getting much benefit out of TransVoiceLessons
Zhea is clearly exceptionally talented and has a near unique understanding of voice, but like 90% of the videos on that channel are pure theory. Things like “hearing vocal resonance”, “the difference between weight and resonance”, “exercises are BAD”, motivation tips, Q&As, and road maps.
I’m left feeling “What do I actually DO???”
I guess I don’t wanna dump all my anxieties on whoever reads this, but after seeing the results of about four months of HRT it feels like I’ll need a miracle to change enough to stop feeling all consuming disgust and shame.
But fortunately transition hits everyone differently, so I’m sure the rest of you will get exactly what you need from it!
I really needed this message, thank you so much!! ❤️ ❤️
I really want to throw out a bunch of my old boy clothes but I’m not nearly comfortable enough with my body yet, and not comfortable enough to go shopping for girlie things. It’s leaving me feeling stuck in between versions of myself and unable to move forward.
It doesn’t help that my birthday is this week and I am feeling like I am just way too old and flabby for fashion to even make a difference.
Yesterday I had my consultation appointment for laser hair removal. Their office was very cute and smelled nice and full of really really pretty girls, even though the appointment went well I had this massive surge of imposter syndrome and had to stop myself crying in the waiting room! And then I went home and made myself a burger that I had been looking forward to, but it ended up being a bit bad.
So my week has been kinda mixed! 😂
Given that there are governmental departments for interacting with muggles, and qualifications taught at Hogwarts, my assumption was that it was like many other fields of study typical members of the public did know little, but plenty of research exists. How much does the typical person know about nuclear thermodynamics? Not much, and they don’t really need to, but that doesn’t mean all of humanity knows nothing. Hermione states pretty regularly that the spells protecting Hogwarts protect it from being discovered and prevent electrical communications from functioning.
I would think that, in a war with muggles, any wizard signing up to fight would be given training (by those few governmental and academic experts) in muggle warfare, weaponry, and relevant defensive spells needed for such a conflict.