• cum@lemmy.cafe
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    4 months ago

    Maybe this is an unpopular opinion but I just don’t think polyamory can work. It will never stay or remain balanced between them all, and simply doesn’t work long term. Two people is already incredibly difficult on so many emotional and logistic levels, adding a third while also remaining the love and attraction equal is simply not sustainable.

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      4 months ago

      I am the type of person who cannot separate sexual relationships from romantic relationships. I used to think the same way you about open/poly relationshios and also “friends with benefits”. Every time I’d seen one they ended badly with someone, like me, “catching feelings” and someone getting hurt.

      However, I recently found out that a couple in my friend group has an open marriage. They attend parties together and very much appear to be a loving couple like any other and, I believe, they are. They just also date and have sex with other people sometimes.

      I think it isn’t for everyone. I also think that often someone is dissatisfied in a relationship and they think they can make it work with a third or open relationship… and it doesn’t work out. But I’m convinced that for some people it absolutely works.