• SourDragon@lemmy.worldEnglish
    11·
    27 days ago

    I’m in my mid 30s and I’m not ashamed to admit that I still have a stuffed animal that I hug

    Edit. So happy to see I’m not alone in this 🥲

  • stopforgettingit@lemmy.worldEnglish
    11·
    27 days ago

    I have found that if I want my needs to be met, I have to ask for my needs to be met and i have to say exactly what I am looking for. The hardest part of my getting here was actually understanding what my needs are, knowing what will help get them met, and separating that from the feelings I have about my unmet needs.

    If I feel like I need a hug and no-one is around, I will give myself a very tight hug, grabbing both my shoulders with opposite hands and pulling them tightly forward.

    If I am looking for verbal affirmation, I will tell my husband what I specifically want to hear, he will repeat it back to me but this also helps him know what I am looking for exactly so he will also provide support around that.

    Sometimes, nothing can be done and the only thing I can so is wait out what ever feeling I am having, on days like that, I put on a comfort TV show (Futurama or TNG) and I go to bed early, even if its like 2:00PM.

  • Arcanepotato@crazypeople.onlineEnglish
    9·
    27 days ago

    I will often turn to my spouse for cuddles and affirmations but as he’s a human being and not just a cuddle machine, sometimes I am left to my own devices:

    • curl up in bed, in the dark, heavy blankets. I was supposed to find that hugging a stuffed animal was comforting on occasion. There is nothing wrong with doing that, it was just never my instinct?

    • certain foods distract me from pain in my body, or soothe the pain, idk but it helps.

    • certain textures are very comforting. Some objects sold as fidget or stim toys have these textures. Sometimes I’ll just hold one in my hand and feel the distress melt away.

  • ZDL@lazysoci.alEnglish
    3·
    27 days ago

    I pull back from whatever is causing the discomfort and figure out my new relationship with it.

  • gegil@sopuli.xyzEnglish
    3·
    27 days ago

    Get into the comfy bed, get some snacks and tea, and play some cozy games or watch anime on tv (i have a cheap dumb tv connected to pc).

  • dkppunk@piefed.socialEnglish
    3·
    26 days ago

    I go to the library

    Books are my safe space. I have been going to the library as an escape for as long as I can remember.