2 things they way they treat you normally and how they treat you when you are at your lowest.
To elaborate a bit more: did they do everything in their power to help and uplift you? Did they like spending time with you?
When you did something wrong how did they approach it? What do you think was going in their head?
Like My Mom and father did everything they could do to help me. Even my father is heavily misguided, I chose to believe he was doing/saying what he felt was correct for me. Plus I never felt like a burden or unwanted. This is stark contrast to my SO mother who thinks kids are ball and chain and wishes she didnt have them.
2 things they way they treat you normally and how they treat you when you are at your lowest.
To elaborate a bit more: did they do everything in their power to help and uplift you? Did they like spending time with you? When you did something wrong how did they approach it? What do you think was going in their head?
Like My Mom and father did everything they could do to help me. Even my father is heavily misguided, I chose to believe he was doing/saying what he felt was correct for me. Plus I never felt like a burden or unwanted. This is stark contrast to my SO mother who thinks kids are ball and chain and wishes she didnt have them.