I kinda wanna know about my parents past but I feel awkward asking. They love to interject and add phrases like “look how much worse our lives are and how much we sacrificed for you, you have to be grateful”, which just makes me feel bad for asking, but like… I just want the raw story, and that’s it.
(Idk when is the right time to ask, but hopefully I manage to get those stories before they die, it’d be a shame to lose that part of history.)
Both of my parents had difficult upbringings that both of them need some serious therapy for. I don’t really know any details, but a little bit ago my mom got a random call from an investigator in southern California. They had either caught some guy or were trying to catch some guy that killed a string of young girls some 30 years ago. All I know is that after talking more thoroughly with the investigator, she was sobbing - and my mother is a very hard woman. She had a run in with this guy and my guess is that there was something very traumatic involving an SA. But I don’t know and I don’t want to know because I don’t have the oomph to carry that weight with her unless she goes to therapy.
I know some other stories from either of them and it rings true that hurt people hurt people. But I don’t want to know more about any of the hard times nor the party times because it’s too much for me to bear.