I got moved to a new school every year from 5-12th grade. I never had friends to even invite to my birthday. I tried a few times when I was younger and it was wildly depressing. I learned fast to keep to myself, talk to nobody, and expect nothing from “big days”.
We’d do small family birthday stuff but even that was awful. My mother liked to get the shitty cheap knock-off version of whatever you asked for even if the original thing was already cheap… or in my case she’d buy me clothes (from goodwill) that were absolutely hideous, the sort of thing my sister would wear to be the center of attention but which I wouldn’t have touched… so I really never even had any gifts to look forward to…
In my early 20s I figured I’d try again. Birthday 21 rolls around, the one everyone wants to celebrate with you… and… two friends and two family members came out of the dozens of people I invited. Nope, never doing that again.
Now at best I’ll go sit somewhere that I drink for free with one other person at most. Just give me the free alcohol, don’t try to get me to be all chummy with the other birthday people. I’ll just leave.
I got moved to a new school every year from 5-12th grade. I never had friends to even invite to my birthday. I tried a few times when I was younger and it was wildly depressing. I learned fast to keep to myself, talk to nobody, and expect nothing from “big days”.
We’d do small family birthday stuff but even that was awful. My mother liked to get the shitty cheap knock-off version of whatever you asked for even if the original thing was already cheap… or in my case she’d buy me clothes (from goodwill) that were absolutely hideous, the sort of thing my sister would wear to be the center of attention but which I wouldn’t have touched… so I really never even had any gifts to look forward to…
In my early 20s I figured I’d try again. Birthday 21 rolls around, the one everyone wants to celebrate with you… and… two friends and two family members came out of the dozens of people I invited. Nope, never doing that again.
Now at best I’ll go sit somewhere that I drink for free with one other person at most. Just give me the free alcohol, don’t try to get me to be all chummy with the other birthday people. I’ll just leave.