Ugh, casual sexism. Look at the bottom of the barrel, and judge an entire gender by the way those behave.
A lot of guys, gay or otherwise, don’t think or behave like that. And by your own definition, you’re also the worst. Sucks to have that terrible self esteem, but don’t lump me up with your self-hating ass
As a human being, human beings are the worst. If it wasn’t for our tendency to completely dominate our environments, I don’t know why the world would put up with us.
I’d bet any amount of money that they would respond to any criticism of men with a 5,000 page dissertation but any criticism of women would just get an upvote.
Lemmy is, for better or worse, much like early 2010’s reddit. You’ve got a generally left leaning vibe with intense neckbeard bullshit mixed in.
Super easy to assume when you’re no actually betting. Or finding a 5,000 page dissertation. But of course, moving the goalposts, claiming it was a hyperbole, grandstanding and virtue signaling without actually checking yourself for biases is all what most people do, on any end of the sociopolitical spectrum.
And tagging anything you disagree with as neckbeard, incel and other derrogative, thought ending cliches, while defending blanket statements about entire groups of people, hard to believe the cognitive dissonance doesn’t make more people uncomfortable.
Edit: And the main reason why you hardly ever see any sexist comment like that about women here in Lemmy is because a lot of people, me included, report them on sight, and the mods are great at removing them, as well as rightfully so, banning the offending users.
Feel free to test it out if you’d like, make a post or a comment like that about women, and watch it dissappear. Because sexism and bigotry should have no place here. And it is very health to actually test your theories and biases.
Getting wildly offended on behalf of neckbeards and incels to the point of posting a 4 paragraph rant really isn’t helping you beat the 50 billion page accusation.
It also really doesn’t help that reading it while doing a Ben Shapiro impression is extremely funny.
There are some amazing people in FetLife, and in Grindr too. But like I said before, looking at the very bottom of the barrel and judging a whole gender based on it, that is beyond stupid.
Funny how I never seem to have these issues with fems and non-binary people. Even the ones who grew up masc. In fact, most of the problems there are a direct result of really shitty behavior from men and trying to cope with it.
Instead of going “not all men”, maybe try to point out shitty behavior? Maybe one day, we can get past all this.
The point is, if 10% of guys in a given population are unspeakably awful, that’s the 10% who you will hear from on a dating app. You don’t get that from fems because they are typically being pursued on all dating and social media apps, because we still largely hold to the cultural norm that men/masc presenting people are responsible for asking the other person out.
It seems worse on Grindr because the majority of users are cis men-the very people who have been told since birth that it’s their job to pursue sexual connections. Of course that leads to poor behavior.
I was dating hot and heavy a couple of years ago. Fun first date question was to ask the woman about bad first dates they’ve had. Jesus fucking Christ, I have no idea why they keep trying with us men! I have exactly 1 horrible first date story, and that was more stupid than horrible.
must be nice bro. i have been out with 100s of women over the years. i’d say a good quarter to 1/3 of them were horrible people. selfish, nasty, racist, sexist, violent etc. i’ve been sexually assaulted quite a few times too.
it’s just that most violent shitty women get a pass because they are women and not perceived as a ‘threat’ to society. the way a violent man is. a woman raping a man is not considered heinous crime, it’s considered a man ‘getting lucky’.
this bullshit that men are awful and women are wonderful is pure sexism. in my experience both sexes are shitty, it’s just that one sex gets called out on it a lot more than the other.
As a pansexual man, men are the worst. If it wasn’t mandated by evolution, I don’t know why women would put up with us.
Ugh, casual sexism. Look at the bottom of the barrel, and judge an entire gender by the way those behave.
A lot of guys, gay or otherwise, don’t think or behave like that. And by your own definition, you’re also the worst. Sucks to have that terrible self esteem, but don’t lump me up with your self-hating ass
As a human being, human beings are the worst. If it wasn’t for our tendency to completely dominate our environments, I don’t know why the world would put up with us.
Try an experiment: go on Fetlife and setup a profile as a fem. Start collecting DMs. It might be enlightening.
Yes, you’re very smart.
I’d bet any amount of money that they would respond to any criticism of men with a 5,000 page dissertation but any criticism of women would just get an upvote.
Lemmy is, for better or worse, much like early 2010’s reddit. You’ve got a generally left leaning vibe with intense neckbeard bullshit mixed in.
Yeah, and they don’t even have a clue how clueless they are.
Super easy to assume when you’re no actually betting. Or finding a 5,000 page dissertation. But of course, moving the goalposts, claiming it was a hyperbole, grandstanding and virtue signaling without actually checking yourself for biases is all what most people do, on any end of the sociopolitical spectrum.
And tagging anything you disagree with as neckbeard, incel and other derrogative, thought ending cliches, while defending blanket statements about entire groups of people, hard to believe the cognitive dissonance doesn’t make more people uncomfortable.
Edit: And the main reason why you hardly ever see any sexist comment like that about women here in Lemmy is because a lot of people, me included, report them on sight, and the mods are great at removing them, as well as rightfully so, banning the offending users.
Feel free to test it out if you’d like, make a post or a comment like that about women, and watch it dissappear. Because sexism and bigotry should have no place here. And it is very health to actually test your theories and biases.
Getting wildly offended on behalf of neckbeards and incels to the point of posting a 4 paragraph rant really isn’t helping you beat the 50 billion page accusation.
It also really doesn’t help that reading it while doing a Ben Shapiro impression is extremely funny.
Open garbage can > Look in > Mostly garbage.
How very insightful of you, mate.
There are some amazing people in FetLife, and in Grindr too. But like I said before, looking at the very bottom of the barrel and judging a whole gender based on it, that is beyond stupid.
Funny how I never seem to have these issues with fems and non-binary people. Even the ones who grew up masc. In fact, most of the problems there are a direct result of really shitty behavior from men and trying to cope with it.
Instead of going “not all men”, maybe try to point out shitty behavior? Maybe one day, we can get past all this.
The point is, if 10% of guys in a given population are unspeakably awful, that’s the 10% who you will hear from on a dating app. You don’t get that from fems because they are typically being pursued on all dating and social media apps, because we still largely hold to the cultural norm that men/masc presenting people are responsible for asking the other person out.
It seems worse on Grindr because the majority of users are cis men-the very people who have been told since birth that it’s their job to pursue sexual connections. Of course that leads to poor behavior.
I point out shitty behavior, no matter the source. Hence why I am pointing out your very shitty behavior, that you’re too biased to even comprehend.
You sound like the reason women choose the bear.
And you sound like someone who polices choices, swallow the onion whole, feeds the trolls AND takes ragebait at face value.
I truly hope you get to see the world and yourself with kinder, more reality based eyes one day.
There’s no winning with you. You argue with the same logic as a trump supporter.
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I was dating hot and heavy a couple of years ago. Fun first date question was to ask the woman about bad first dates they’ve had. Jesus fucking Christ, I have no idea why they keep trying with us men! I have exactly 1 horrible first date story, and that was more stupid than horrible.
must be nice bro. i have been out with 100s of women over the years. i’d say a good quarter to 1/3 of them were horrible people. selfish, nasty, racist, sexist, violent etc. i’ve been sexually assaulted quite a few times too.
it’s just that most violent shitty women get a pass because they are women and not perceived as a ‘threat’ to society. the way a violent man is. a woman raping a man is not considered heinous crime, it’s considered a man ‘getting lucky’.
this bullshit that men are awful and women are wonderful is pure sexism. in my experience both sexes are shitty, it’s just that one sex gets called out on it a lot more than the other.