I get what the meme is getting at but I don’t agree. The meme implies agreeing with mum which assumes mum is decent… that’s not the truth for a lot of people.
My mother grew up when women weren’t allowed to work if the husband disagreed. The husband had the last word in everything, legally. Married women didn’t even have the right to decide how to spend their money. Also a woman was not allowed to have her own bank account if the husband did not co-sign. A woman was property.
Knowing about the world she lived in, I understand a lot of what she did and the way she thought.
I didn’t get that impression. I feel it is saying that as we get older, we experience more of the same pressures and stresses that our mothers did, and can understand their reactions better. I think that sometimes it may draw us closer, but I’ve noticed that other times my reaction is on the lines of “well, xyz isn’t such a big deal, my mother handled it terribly”. Sometimes, to be a functioning adult, you just look at how your parents handled things and do the opposite.
I get what the meme is getting at but I don’t agree. The meme implies agreeing with mum which assumes mum is decent… that’s not the truth for a lot of people.
To understand doesn’t necessarily mean to agree.
My mother grew up when women weren’t allowed to work if the husband disagreed. The husband had the last word in everything, legally. Married women didn’t even have the right to decide how to spend their money. Also a woman was not allowed to have her own bank account if the husband did not co-sign. A woman was property.
Knowing about the world she lived in, I understand a lot of what she did and the way she thought.
Do I agree with her? Hell no.
I didn’t get that impression. I feel it is saying that as we get older, we experience more of the same pressures and stresses that our mothers did, and can understand their reactions better. I think that sometimes it may draw us closer, but I’ve noticed that other times my reaction is on the lines of “well, xyz isn’t such a big deal, my mother handled it terribly”. Sometimes, to be a functioning adult, you just look at how your parents handled things and do the opposite.
Yep different people will interpret it differently