i mean, yes? is it really flagrantly immoral if (actually) consenting adults agree to participate in an activity together? like sure if someone on the street stabbed me out of nowhere I’d be pretty put out but i would consider that categorically different than asking my partner to carve her name into my thigh with a razor blade bc it gets me going even though their actions (cutting my skin) and the outcome (me being wounded) are functionally identical

not all violence is created equal. we can understand this outside the purview of kink (violence against the workers bad, violence against the ownership class good) so I don’t really see why we should struggle with it here