Yeah they just kinda fucked us up. Not only does it make kids less likely to develop resilience to challenges when you single them out and praise them for being ‘smart,’ it ties their self worth to being ‘smart’ and doing things easily. Kids who are praised for their hard work and effort, on the other hand, tend to do better long term because they internalize what is valuable about them isn’t immediately understanding things or having it come easily, but the persistence to do it even when it’s not easy.
Yeah… I wasn’t even that smart. I just have really good reading comprehension and recall stuff I’ve read. Since like everything in school was memorization based it was pretty easy for me to do well enough to get by without trying too hard. If I actually had to apply knowledge though I was average at best. I figure most shit out just by being stubborn and ramming my head into the wall until I break through. Which doesn’t help when it’s something I don’t actually want to do. The transition into college was rough.
Yeah they just kinda fucked us up. Not only does it make kids less likely to develop resilience to challenges when you single them out and praise them for being ‘smart,’ it ties their self worth to being ‘smart’ and doing things easily. Kids who are praised for their hard work and effort, on the other hand, tend to do better long term because they internalize what is valuable about them isn’t immediately understanding things or having it come easily, but the persistence to do it even when it’s not easy.
100%. Thanks for putting this into words.
Yeah… I wasn’t even that smart. I just have really good reading comprehension and recall stuff I’ve read. Since like everything in school was memorization based it was pretty easy for me to do well enough to get by without trying too hard. If I actually had to apply knowledge though I was average at best. I figure most shit out just by being stubborn and ramming my head into the wall until I break through. Which doesn’t help when it’s something I don’t actually want to do. The transition into college was rough.