Sure, that’s accurate, it takes some level of sincerity (sincerity = seriousness) to have preferences like what kind of coffee table you want and having say, the desire to keep said table clean, or getting curtains for your window. It’s domestic habits that many boys are never taught to care about, and there is an idea that it’s “not masculine” to care about your furniture or decor so they feel awkward or silly going through the deliberate process of picking out things like that and then caring for those things.
Ah, I think that’s where I was getting confused - “serious” to me isn’t quite the same as “sincere”, so I understood “unserious” to mean like, “silly” but in a goofy kinda way. I get what you’re saying now!
Oh I see, so it’s “unserious” because they are uncomfortable being serious about what they want?
Sure, that’s accurate, it takes some level of sincerity (sincerity = seriousness) to have preferences like what kind of coffee table you want and having say, the desire to keep said table clean, or getting curtains for your window. It’s domestic habits that many boys are never taught to care about, and there is an idea that it’s “not masculine” to care about your furniture or decor so they feel awkward or silly going through the deliberate process of picking out things like that and then caring for those things.
Ah, I think that’s where I was getting confused - “serious” to me isn’t quite the same as “sincere”, so I understood “unserious” to mean like, “silly” but in a goofy kinda way. I get what you’re saying now!
I appreciate you asking questions! A lot of people just react to things without asking for clarification.