I’ve been making new friends recently and going out with them. One of the times a bunch of us (me included got really drunk). I was all over this one guy putting my arm around him and leaning towards him in between his legs while he was sitting down. I don’t remember if we kissed or if nothing else happened.

Anyway, we went out another time and he asked me if I thought we were going to fuck. I didn’t know what to say and said maybe, and he said that he thought we would, and then I agreed with him (because I do like him).

But now I keep thinking about that and wondering if I need to do something to make that happen. Like text him or something. I just feel nervous because I’ve never texted him before (we’ve only been in group texts together). And I feel like if I do text him I’m going to fuck it up, because this (having mutual interest with someone in person) has pretty much never happened to me before so I don’t really know how to navigate the situation at all. Please help.

  • pinball_wizard@lemmy.zipEnglish
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    1 month ago

    Life is short, and it sounds like you already have an understanding.

    I would text with what I want to do, how, where, and when.

    If his expectations are different, you can discuss and compromise.

    It sounds to me like just going for it will work out fine.

    When I’m nervous about something I want to do, I like to review if I’ve considered all the angles. It sounds to me like you’ve covered things pretty well.

    • Sounds like you already know each other from group contexts. +Sounds like you trust him, physically.
    • Sounds like you have both already demonstrated to each-other a willingness to communicate before acting.
    • I would make a plan for appropriate protection, share expectations in advance, and stick to it. I would include my expectations in my opening message.
    • Maybe counterintuitively, it can be wise to make sure a close friend also knows what you’re up to. I would gossip my detailed plans, in advance, to a close friend as a safety precaution.