My point is when people use this argument “Well abusive couples just shouldn’t be couples!” it is a way to dismiss the danger of never ending surveillance that makes an INCREDIBLY problematic leap of condemning people falling into abusive relationships to simply suffer, tough luck… and it demonstrates a callous, ineffective and frankly worrying understanding of how abusive relationships formed in general.
My point is when people use this argument “Well abusive couples just shouldn’t be couples!” it is a way to dismiss the danger of never ending surveillance that makes an INCREDIBLY problematic leap of condemning people falling into abusive relationships to simply suffer, tough luck… and it demonstrates a callous, ineffective and frankly worrying understanding of how abusive relationships formed in general.
It doesn’t dismiss anything. It’s just a statement of fact. Certainly in certain contexts it could be interpreted that way.