• Jax@sh.itjust.works
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    16 hours ago

    When you say things like “some assholes prey on women’s insecurities” it’s incredibly condescending, especially when you consider that women can also be assholes.

    Like begets like. I’ve known too many couples where both of the people in the relationship are trash.

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      11 hours ago

      The amount of tone policing here is fantastic, everyone is finding something problematic about what is being said even though the actual effect is mostly agreed on

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        56 minutes ago

        Well, to be fair, I don’t find anything problematic with saying some women can’t resist assholes.

        If you were to suggest that all women can’t resist assholes, 100% that’s red pill garbage. Suggesting that the first statement is red pilled rhetoric is a false correlation, and I’m saying this as someone who is very protective of the women in my family.

        That being said, I would also never suggest that some women aren’t victims of cycles of abuse. That would be morally reprehensible and delusional, to put it lightly.

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      14 hours ago

      Anyone can be a victim, condescension has nothing to do with that.

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        5 hours ago

        And anyone can be an asshole, assuming that all women are simply victims is 100% condescending towards women.

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            Correcting ‘some women can’t resist assholes’ with ‘some assholes prey on women’s insecurities’ doesn’t strike you as assuming that these women are all victims?

            Ok, sure — I’m not going to debate this any further.